Don't even want a wedding reception anymore

Tell them no thanks and it doesn't fit the vibe of the casual reception you want. Your wedding. Your decision!

It's frustrating that they aren't understanding your vision. I'm sure that they are trying to be helpful but it sounds like they are just stressing you out more. Never forget that you're allowed to tell them no even if they are helping pay for it.

They might just want to be more involved in the planning. I found that showing our parents things we were considering (and things we had already chosen) helped them feel included while we made our own decisions.

The pizza food trucks wont take away from your casual vibe. If they'd pay for that I'd let them and here is why....pizza gets weird when its not the right temperature. The cheese gets all leathery and it kinda sucks...not to mention it would be hard to keep it at a safe temperature to avoid food poisoning. If I were to have pizza I'd get a food truck for the comfort of my guests. Just sayin.

I dont think a food truck takes away from your casual backyard vibe at all. It just means your guests will get food that is fresh and served at the right temperature.

Put your foot down . Its your day.

I know this may be hard to believe, but sometimes us older folks (I'm probably older than your parents) just know better. There's nothing nice about a bunch of pizza boxes sitting around. I'd be on your side if they wanted these things and expected you to pay for it. If they are paying for it, I'd say go for it. I don't see a food truck serving pizza as fancy. They probably feel this is a wedding, not a frat party.

Food trucks are still super casual, so if they’re willing to pay I’d choose that over letting pizzas sit out and get cold.

Just ignore it and say, thanks bu no thanks. I think pizza and pasta is perfect. Cost efficient and delicious.

I felt Like this as well! Things started getting bigger than what we had imagined so I was Ready to elope. Now my wedding is 18 days away and it will be fun. I think The food trucks might be fun! I always wanted food trucks at my wedding. But if you don’t love the idea tell them that it’s ok to say no.

If they were paying for the pizza truck I say go for it. The food truck still makes for a casual wedding but nicer than delivery.

Tell them straight up that you don’t want all that extra stuff. It’s your wedding day and that means it’s about what you want not what they want. Yes they can give input and advice but if you’re telling them no I don’t want that then they need to respect that

Yes, let them. They may be trying to politely make up for a mistake they can see you making that would harm your day in some way. Casual vibe doesn't have to mean not fun for your guests.

How hard set on you on the menu? My parents and FH's parents have done the same to ours, and I've learned that in order to not be super stressed, I had to pick the most important things to stick to my guns about and then just let them have their way the rest of the time - especially because they are also paying for it. At first my mom was making all these suggestions and I was very " MOM I CAN'T AFFORD THAT!" but she just kept offering to pay for things if I do it her way, and honestly at the end of the day I'm not going to care that we have the nicer cake she wanted and way more flowers than I had planned, etc. If your menu is something you truly had your heart set on, fight for it, but if it's not then just let them pay for it to make them happy. A food truck is definitely still a casual vibe, and honestly might make for some pretty cute pictures.

I think a food truck is super casual for a wedding. If they are willing to pay for it that takes one large expense off of you. I’d go for it.

Kelsy remember it's just advice email. The final decision is yours. Thank them for the email. Please don't stress out it's important to have it the way you want. Affordable fun memorible event. Stay strong.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. Food trucks are very casual and go with a laid back wedding but at least your guests get to enjoy fresh, hot pizza instead of lukewarm, cold pizza that's just been sitting there for who knows how long. Trust your parents. It sounds like they are thinking about taking care of your guests.

Is the only problem here the food truck suggestion?

From this I'm gathering that the food truck suggestion is not the biggest problem. As far as I am concerned, if your parents are willing to pay for a pizza truck, then that's not exactly the biggest issue. As other people have mentioned, serving pizza buffet-style can get pretty tricky if you don't have heat lamps or whatever since it's not like you can use chafing dishes to keep it warm.

However, this sounds more like you're getting a lot of general pushback from them, and I'm going to guess that this doesn't just end at a pizza truck.

Here's what I would do. Sit down with both sets of parents and go, "Look. Our budget is X. This is what we can afford with X. If you want Y, it's going to blow our budget out of the water. If Y is important to you, we need Z amount of money to make it happen. Can you commit to gifting us Z?"

In the case of the pizza truck, "X" is the budget, "Y" is the pizza truck cost, and "Z" is the difference between X and Y. If your parents are willing to commit to Z, then that's step one.

Part two of the conversation is as follows:

"Great! I'm so pleased that you want to help and we love how generous you guys are. Thanks. Mom, go ahead and pick out your favorite pizza truck and get it all arranged."

Here's the deal. Your parents want you to have a "good" wedding, and people get weird about weddings because there's a lot of tradition wrapped up in them. People who have a more traditional view of weddings are going to assume that your parents are the hosts of the wedding. Specifically the bride's parents. So the party is not just a reflection of YOU, it's a reflection of THEM.

And while your crowd may be just fine with 'za out of the box, their crowd may not be. "Their crowd" being the other family members and any other peers that may be in attendance.

It's easiest to give a little, PROVIDED that you are not the one financing it. If they want it, they can pay for it, and, more importantly, they can organize it.

If Mom is out dealing with arranging a pizza truck, then she's going to be too busy to carp at you for using eco-friendly compostable dishes rather than fine china. In fact, if you give her enough to do and have her finance it, it is LIKELY that at some point she'll just be like "screw it, we can get the regular folding tables rather than the farmhouse ones" or whatever.

Give your family and your in-laws things to do and things to finance if they're willing to do both of those things. So long as they aren't suggesting insano things like renting a full-size organ to play in your backyard and wanting you to pay for it, I'd say it's fine.

View Quoted Comment Very true. I think its a great idea that's piggybacking off of the original idea. I would take it!