Dollar Dance?!

I'm planning on having one and having the BM and MOH collect the money. I think you should do it if you want to.

Thank you SquawkBox that helps out alot! and youre right...no matter what you do, you cant please everyone!

My situation is just the opposite of yours. My FH loves the idea, but I don't want to do it because I kinda feel it's tacky (even though it has been a tradition where we grew up). He says it's a must and both our Mom's think it's a great idea too. In the end I've ok'd it because it's one of the few things my FH has specifically asked for. But we're keeping it short! I was thinking 3 short songs, but after reading some of these posts I'm thinking maybe 2 max. I'm not sure how we'll collect the $ but I certainly won't be pinning it to my dress! I like the garter on the arm idea for him tho! Whatever you decide, don't worry what anyone else thinks, just do what you want!

I think the dollar dance is slowly going out of style and viewed as tacky these days.

I was advised that if I did the dollar dance that I shouldn't register any where for gifts 'cause that'd look greedy. I opted for the presents instead. My other big worry was that since it is a "recession" and many people are experiencing tough financial times, what if no one came up to dance and I'd be standing there like an idiot.

Well in my family the dolor dance is just a way of having fun at the reception. Everyone who gives a dolor get a candy bar or a shot. So kids candy and adults shots. Its not about making the money its just about having fun=]

I went to a wedding where they did the dollar dance and it got way out of hand. The bride got really angry at the groom because he was dancing with a memeber of her family way too close. It ended badly. Just make sure you both know boundaries each of you are comfortable with and I dont see why not.

We're planning on doing the dollar dance personally... it's fun and a chance to talk with and thank people in a silly way. We're planning to put a huge vase between us on a bar stool for people to slide the money in.

good luck!!

DO IT! I think its a fun idea and why not. We are also doing a formal wedding but I really dont find it tacky. I think most people expect traditional things like the dollar dance.

We are planning on having a Dollar dance but our DJ suggested calling it a Honeymoon dance instead. In order to donate to our honeymoon fund.

I think we are going to have our MOH and BM stand up with us and collect money in little black draw string bags that way we know the money is safe. Plus I do not trust people using sharp objects around me especially to pin money on my clean dress. LOL Money is dirty.

Congrats and goo luck with all the planning!

Although I really like Heather B.'s Game of kid napping the bride that would be fun!

I have seen this done at a lot of weddings and a lot of varations. First is the one you mentioned pinning money to the bride - this is my least favorite version because as you mentioned drunk people with pins, pin marks on dress and eww gross dirty germy money pinned to the bride. The second version is most common in the south and called the "Dollar Dash": the bride and groom run around the room and get dollars from the guests and each keep their own money. This is a good alternative for brides and grom who don't like to dance. The third option (and the funnest i think) is common at midwest weddings. Both the bride and groom dance while the MOH and the best man make a competetion out of getting money for the couple. Often I have seen this where the MOH & BM go coerce the crowd to donate and dance try to get more money for their "side" of couple.

Some other posts have mentioned that it is going out of style but all the older women I have talked to keep talking about how they see it at every wedding. I've seen it at all but one wedding of the four I went to this year- and I heard people commenting about how they didn't have it. I think it is fun- and remember it is a dollar dance so technically someone could just give you a dollar for the dance- it is supposed to be fun and a way to spend a moment with your guests. I always make it a point to participate b/c I think it is a lot of fun. Also, I've seen it with the money pouches that you can buy at David's bridal or putting the money it the groom's pocket.

If it's common among yours or your fiance's family, do it. But if you're the first in the family to do it in a long time, it may come across as a plea for more money, rather than to honor a tradition. If you don't care about the money (which you may not get a lot of anyway) consider a snowball dance instead. The entertainer plays a mid-temp ballad, you and your husband start dancing, then after 10 or 15 seconds, split off and grab a new partner. This continues until everyone is dancing.

I say do the dollar dance. I think they are alot of fun. And as the bride and groom it will give you a chance to talk to almost everyine at the reception. What I plan to do is, have my maid of honor and bridesmaid handle the money and when someone pays the dollar they get a jello shot. They can either take the jello shot or give it to the bride or groom. Remember this is your wedding make it yours and do what you have to to have a good time.

Well.. I ahve to go with your mom on this one. I also think that it is very tacky. People are already giving you money and it takes up A LOT of your time that you could be dancing and having fun with your guests.

The Dollar Dance/Money Dance is an excellent opportunity to dance with people you wouldn't normally get a chance to dance with, as well as a photo opportunity. IF you don't want to make it about money, print some FAKE money (Bridal Bucks) and put it at each place setting. When it comes time for the dance, your guests can use the phoney money.

If you still want to collect REAL money, the maid of honor and best man should have a basket. Shots are also a nice "add-on" (candy for the kids).

I agree with it adding an opportunity to dance and talk with people you may not get to otherwise, but I agree with mom. Having your wedding in a ballroom to me says no dollar dance, no chicken dance, no line dance, but I'd say to really look at how you envision your wedding. You guys look young and fun so go with what "feels" right and tell mom dancing with FH is gonna cost her. ;-)

My (now Ex) and I did the dollar dance at our wedding....we made close to $1000!!!! We didn't have a honeymoon, but we used the money to do fun things like go to a Boston Red Sox game, go to Six Flags and the list goes on....we also bought items we didn't get but wanted for our home. Just a thought!! Plus it was SO MUCH fun and you get to talk to everyone who attended and wanted to dance with you.

Those are a couple of the reasons why I was wanting to do the Dollar Dance. We are going on a very elaborate honeymoon and while we don't have to pay for the honeymoon itself we won't be getting paid the week and half we will be gone so it has us a bit concerned. I was thinking whatever money we earned during the dance could go towards paying bills while we are in Italy.

If you are uncomfortable with the dance, you can always make a money tree and set it on the card/ present table. Just make sure that you get it started by pinning on some $ so people get the idea. That way, no one feels pressured to participate and you avoid pinning things to your beautiful gown.