One of my grandparents is 84 years old with dementia. He is one of my favorite people on this earth.
He is showing signs of decline. Our wedding is in September, and my heart hurts at the thought that he wouldn't be there. I've heard him say how much he wants to be there. I am grateful he still remembers me. My fiance is aware of how important having him there is to me. He agreed to do something honorary for him if needed.
In the case where he declines rapidly, I want to do something ceremonial for him. I would want to put on a dress, not the dress, and go to his house and have him watch us "get married". In case he won't make it to the actual wedding. It would not the official ceremony, just something honorary so he can be there and see it. Is this weird? Do you have any other ideas?