Does the MOB need to get dress before MOG?

I was in the same boat. So I talked with my mother and his mother and they sort of picked different colors that coordinated with the BM dresses without matching them. So my BM dresses were maroon. So my mother wore navy and his mom wore plum. So then they didn't have to shop together but could shop on their own schedule and not clash.

No, I have never heard that. Just let them pick something they love and are comfortable in.

Our mothers got their dresses independently. I just told my mother-in-law that my mom planned on getting a long gown and the bridesmaids were in long gowns. Beyond that it was up to them.

Nope FH mom got her dress already! My mom is waiting until May/June - they did consult on color together to be sure they were not wearing the same. I don't care as long as they are comfortable & will be able to wear the dress again.

My feeling on that etiquette is that it's useful when you're having interpersonal issues or MOB and MOG want the same or similar dresses, not that it's law. Are you willing to go shopping with FMIL? That will help you help your own mother when she's ready to go shopping the week before your wedding (kidding!!)

As a MOB I would not care if my daughters FMIL got her dress before me. If she found something she loved, then I hope that she would buy it. I know me......I will change my mind 100 times before deciding.

I was not involved in my mom or MIL picking their dresses. I think my MIL wore the same dress she wore to her daughter's wedding. My mom got her dress almost a year before my wedding. She found it on sale at Nordstrom.

I would just tell her your colors and let her pick whatever she feels comfortable in! As long as they both pick a color that looks good with the colors of your wedding they wont clash!

My FMIL was kind of the same way. She kept asking me what my mom was wearing - would it be long or short? What color is it going to be? Etc. I answered what I could, but it really doesn't matter who gets their dress first. I think FMIL just didn't want to be too over or under dressed. She was letting my mom set the tone.

It shouldn't matter but if you're worried then just ask your mom if it's okay with her that FMIL goes shopping first.

I told both moms what my colors were, but It didn't have to be those colors and I know that different colors look better on different people. I let them choose their own dresses/colors, as did all my sisters and my DH siblings since. As long as it wasn't white and they had something to wear the day of, I didn't care. My mom wore pink and MIL wore purple. If she wants to get a dress now, not a big deal. If she finds another she likes better down the road, let her figure that out. Not your problem.

Our mothers are going to wear whatever they want. My mom doesn't wear dresses, and that is fine with me.

I just told my mommas to get whatever they wanted. It wasn't a huge ordeal or anything. They ended up getting in touch with each other and chose the same dress in different colors. I thought they looked lovely!

Perfect thanks everyone.....that was what I was hoping to hear, there are so many "ettiquite rules" I never even knew about, even with the many weddings I have attended over the years, so it is hard to know what "rules" are important and which don't matter. I'll give her some guidance now so if she wants to start shopping she can feel free. Our mothers have such different styles that I doubt they are in danger of selecting too similar of dresses any way. I also don't think either are super comfortable in long dresses, so I'll just tell them both that a cocktail or tea length is fine and that my bridesmaids will be in cornflower blue so anything in the blue or purple family should be fine, as long as any non white neutral such as champagne, or even grey. Does that sound ok? I never gave it any thought but she apparently asked FH again yesterday if I've said anything yet so she would probably appreciate a phone call from me about it this weekend.

It isn't an option for us all to go shopping together unfortunately because his mom is in CA, my mom is in NJ, and I am in MD. We probably all won't be together until my shower, and I don't think she would want to wait that long. It isn't planned yet but my mom was thinking May or June and the wedding is July

My mom bought first but my mom is the person who tries it on once, does it fit, okay let's buy it, type of person. She's doesn't take long to find something and is content in anything!

FMIL on the other hand spends a long time trying things on, looking online. She's sent me some very questionable, long, blinged out, really sexy looking gowns and I'm just like "ohhhh". Sexy as in FH is like "MY MOM in THAT?!" I just laugh.

My colors are blush and navy. My mom chose a red wine color, FMIL is looking at coral. Idc if they match. They won't be in pics with the BM. They might take very few with my friends and that's it. I also don't think they'll be in but one or two pics together. I would much rather them be comfortable in what they chose when they're in so few pics. (As in less than 20 pics... not zero..)

I told my mom and both his moms to wear whatever they want. There is no need for them to coordinate with anyone. Both my FMILs picked outfits that coordinate since they're a couple and I just sent my mom a picture since her style is similar to their's.

@Kristin, we are in MD too. Happy Fall day!

Just tell them both to wear whatever they want. They don't have to match eachother or the bridal party. And it doesn't matter who picks first.

I think my mom bought her dress two weeks before the wedding. Literally, this is not something you need to concern yourself with.