Does terribly behaved flower girl HAVE to attend the bridal shower?

I don't really think the FG ever has to attend the shower.

You can but since she's in the wedding, I would think she would assume the flower girl is invited so you would have to specially tell her to not bring her.

Why in the world did she ask her to be a flower girl, if she knew what her behavior was like?

Can you host it in a bar?

So happy that my social circle hosts adult only weddings. :o)

I can't imagine why your friend would want a kid like that in her wedding. I've never been to a bridal shower so I'm not positive on etiquette, but good luck.

I don't think she needs to attend, when i think of bridal shower I think of adult females attending (unless coed)

I hope flower girl does not cause trouble at the wedding

I don't think the flower girl has to come. i think that most FGs would be bored at a shower. it isn't really a children's event.

From my understanding, the groom's family pressured them into having the little girl and her brother as flower girl and ring bearer. I think it caused a big fight when they told them they didn't want kids and so they are trying to keep the peace.

She doesn't need to, but if the bride knows about the shower, I'd ask her if she would want the FG invited.

The last wedding I was in, we decided adult only shower for $ and numbers purposes. So the FG didn't come (but then another BM brought her 2 year old, the FG's mom, also a BM, was so mad).

My flower girl is perfect and after FH and me, the next most excited person about everything to do about the wedding. So she will be there. lol

She doesn't need to attend the bridal shower. I've been to a few adult only wedding showers. However, she will be at the wedding and that will be a bigger issue than her attending the shower.

A young flower girl would be really bored at a bridal shower so it's not necessary for her to be there and that might give you an excuse.My other concern though is if the badly behaved flower girl will be able to respectfully do her part as a flower girl? I would be worried about her going down the aisle having a temper tantrum or worse!

I feel so bad for your friend.

I always thought bridal showers were for adults some of the games that are played are a little to much for kids. I think the worry should be the wedding if she throws tantrums and things of that nature

I don't think children should attend any type of shower.

Just say it can get a little raunchy so for the saftey of the kids if you don't want them to see or hear something inappropriate please don't bring them and just let the mom decide .. I told that to my friend who has a TERRIBLE 3YR old and shes not bringing him lol

Some time back, I attended my cousin's shower, to which the flower girls (multiple!!) were invited - and they were helping to unwrap the gifts. I had to scramble to warn the MOH that my gift was slightly X-rated (nothing too bad, I promise!) and that the kiddos definitely shouldn't be near that one. So, my vote is no, this young lady does not need to be invited to the shower

The Flower girl in my wedding won't be going to the shower because she is almost 2 years old and the shower would be about a hour away. So I wouldn't imagine she has to go.

My bridesmaids specifically told me that a bridal shower wasn't a place for children. They were right.

I would just make it clear that the shower is for adults only. Honestly, I've never really seen kids at showers, so this is something that never would have crossed my mind. If her FSIL asks, just tell her that for budget reasons, the shower is only for the adults.

We're not inviting any kids to to the bridal shower, so I don't think it's required, even for the flower girl

Another vote for "Who would invite a child to a bridal shower?" I mean, kids do NOT want to sit and watch someone *else* open a bunch of presents, least of all presents that are boring (to them).