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Rebecca
Just Said Yes June 2021

Does my sister have to be in the bridal party?

Rebecca, on January 14, 2020 at 11:19 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
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So this is kind of an interesting situation. My sister and I get along, were not bffs but we also don't hate each other. She just got married at a destination wedding at a Sandals in Jamaica. I planned and paid for my trip right away since I assumed I would be in the party. Three months before the wedding she asked if I could be in charge of taking pictures. Up until this point I had spent $2k+ to go to her wedding, and even asked what color dress she wanted me to wear. All of this time she never mentioned anything about me taking pictures or her not even having a bridal party, even if it was just me. So now my turn is coming up, and I have a lot of friends I would like to have as bridesmaids, that I talk to more often than my sister. Is it etiquette to include her in my wedding, even if I wasn't in hers?

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Latest activity by Maggie, on January 14, 2020 at 2:57 PM
  • Jess
    Dedicated June 2022
    Jess ·
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    If she didn't have you in her bridal party then you aren't required to have her in yours unless you really want to.

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·
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    No one is entitled to a spot in the bridal party, regardless of if you were in hers or not. Unless you want her as a bridesmaid, you don't have to ask her.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I'm not sure why you would assume that you were in her wedding, but no, you're not required to have her in yours either. It also seems like maybe you're not including her because you're bitter that you weren't in her wedding, so I would think carefully before you make a decision.

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  • Nicole
    Super August 2020
    Nicole ·
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    I didn't have my sister in mine. We get along, but we're not super close and she lives her own life. My friends are more of sisters to me than my real sister. If she didn't have you in hers, you don't have to have her in yours.

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    You do not have to have her as a bridesmaid just because she is related to you. Your bridal party should consist of those closest to you.

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
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    I didn't have any of my sisters in my bridal party. We only had a MOH and Best Man. I asked my cousin and he asked his dad.

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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    Agree with the majority: her decisions about her wedding aren't relevant to whether you have her in your party. Ask if her you want her to be in yours; do not if you don't.

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