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Does my sister have to be in the bridal party?

Rebecca, on January 14, 2020 at 11:19 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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So this is kind of an interesting situation. My sister and I get along, were not bffs but we also don't hate each other. She just got married at a destination wedding at a Sandals in Jamaica. I planned and paid for my trip right away since I assumed I would be in the party. Three months before the wedding she asked if I could be in charge of taking pictures. Up until this point I had spent $2k+ to go to her wedding, and even asked what color dress she wanted me to wear. All of this time she never mentioned anything about me taking pictures or her not even having a bridal party, even if it was just me. So now my turn is coming up, and I have a lot of friends I would like to have as bridesmaids, that I talk to more often than my sister. Is it etiquette to include her in my wedding, even if I wasn't in hers?

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Latest activity by Maggie, on January 14, 2020 at 2:57 PM

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Jess · on January 14, 2020 at 11:21 AM
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If she didn't have you in her bridal party then you aren't required to have her in yours unless you really want to.
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Master January 2015
null · on January 14, 2020 at 11:23 AM
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No one is entitled to a spot in the bridal party, regardless of if you were in hers or not. Unless you want her as a bridesmaid, you don't have to ask her.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on January 14, 2020 at 11:25 AM
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I'm not sure why you would assume that you were in her wedding, but no, you're not required to have her in yours either. It also seems like maybe you're not including her because you're bitter that you weren't in her wedding, so I would think carefully before you make a decision.
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Nicole · on January 14, 2020 at 11:27 AM
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I didn't have my sister in mine. We get along, but we're not super close and she lives her own life. My friends are more of sisters to me than my real sister. If she didn't have you in hers, you don't have to have her in yours.
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Meghan · on January 14, 2020 at 12:02 PM
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You do not have to have her as a bridesmaid just because she is related to you. Your bridal party should consist of those closest to you.
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Sherry · on January 14, 2020 at 2:35 PM
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I didn't have any of my sisters in my bridal party. We only had a MOH and Best Man. I asked my cousin and he asked his dad.
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Maggie · on January 14, 2020 at 2:57 PM
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Agree with the majority: her decisions about her wedding aren't relevant to whether you have her in your party. Ask if her you want her to be in yours; do not if you don't.
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