Does my Fiancé's Brother's Girlfriend have to come to my wedding?

Tinaaaaaaa, where are yoooooouuuu?

I feel you. One of my Bridesmaids and one of FH's groomsmen just broke up. (I told them NOT to date each other because GM is kind of a jerk and I had a feeling it would end up this way). It was messy and my friend is taking it super hard. Like crying daily a month later. The groomsman has had a new gf of three weeks. He's already talking about bringing her. Ummmm no. I know she is his "girlfriend" or flavor of the week, but at this moment, she's not on my list. I'm totally being petty. I'm also really concerned for my friend who would be so upset the day of if this chick comes. My friend wouldn't be dramatic, but she'd be sad. She doesn't hide feelings well and I see less drama by not inviting her. My wedding is also a LOT sooner than yours. A lot can change in a short amount of time.

Yes they are a social unit and have been for years. It doesn't matter if you like her or not she still needs to be invited

She's not a plus one. You should invite her by name. You can't decide if you think people won't be getting married and not invite them...that's insane

I've been told 6 months or more rule. Anybody in a relationship 6 months or more gets a plus one or their SO gets their name on the invite envelope as well.

Girl, don't even pay attention to her. Hi and bye her, if that's how you feel.

You never know what happens, this girl might end up being an in law.

Don't start up any unnecessary drama.

@Stargazer-that's a stupid arbitrary rule. FH and I were living together by 5 months, and were pregnant 18 months in. We were jointly invited to a wedding after being together a couple of months. Who the fuck are you to decide the seriousness of someone's relationship?

OP, put on your big girl pants and invite her, by name. And yes, as an SO, she needs to be invited to the rehearsal dinner.

All relationships regardless of length count as a social unit and must be invited.

OP, if it makes you feel any better, I spent maybe two minutes total with my husband's brother's girlfriend at my wedding. It was also the first time I met her, and I haven't seen her since. Your day goes by so fast, you will not be forced to spend significant time with anyone.

Yea you need to invite her, no matter if you like her or not, she could be your future sister in law

YES... she's not a plus one, she is your FBIL's significant other.

Shanyn, you are wrong. SOs of wedding party absolutely should be invited to the RD. Again, social units are invited to events together. Your lack of understanding of etiquette is unfortunate.

Yes. They're a unit.

@Shanyn- same rules apply for the rehearsal dinner. They're a social unit, so the dinner invite extends to the girlfriend.

Yes, you have to invite her.

Yes invite her

Uh, yeah.

May I ask why you and her not getting along if you haven't yet spent time with your FBIL. She should be invited. Otherwise he may not want to have a relationship with you. Good luck.

Yes

You would look so much like a bitch if you didnt.

Not sure if anyone is still responding to this.

I have a similar situation, except my fiancé's brother is not the best man (not that it matters anyways) and the brother/gf have been dating for a year. I personally don't mind if she comes to the wedding, but I was thinking of maybe not inviting her because she caused a lot of problems for my fiancé's family (really bad disrespectful drama). The family members who are close and important to us will be there and I don't want there to be drama if she shows up. Would it be wise to still invite her?