Does my bridal party have to get me a wedding/shower gift?

I should mention too that my MOH has asked me numerous times if I'm planning on getting her a wedding gift. I finally told her that I was planning on getting her a personalized gift with her last name on it that she really wants. She seemed a very annoyed when I told her that. I can tell she really doesn't want to have to get me a wedding gift either. Or at least it strongly feels that way.

I can see where you're coming from, & some ppl may not be as thoughtful as others. Also your moh might be waiting for your wedding day to give you a gift, just wait & see how it all plays out. CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR UPCOMING DAY!

I wouldn't stress too much about it honestly. If all 3 of you are planning weddings then you all know how expensive it is! Could it be they are a little low on cash right now to buy a gift? Or maybe they just assumed the 3 of you wouldn't exchange gifts since you're all getting married.

Did they host the shower? If so they money and time that goes into that could be considered their gift to you.

Well no ones really required to get you a gift.

Nobody HAS to get you a gift. Your bridesmaids are will be spending a lot of money towards your wedding with purchases related to it (shoes, dress, ect) as I'm sure you know as you are also going through it and since you all are standing up in two weddings and each planning one (Props to you!) I'm sure the cash flow is a bit tight. If you want to get them gifts, get them gifts. This isn't and shouldn't be a tit for tat situation.

No one has to get you a gift, especially if they hosted the shower. The time and money they spent on the shower is definitely a gift. It sounds like your bridesmaids likely have limited budgets as they are planning their own weddings. Still get them a gift if you want, and send them a thank you for attending and don't mention gifts.

Nobody has to get you a gift. Not a single person.

Nobody has to get you a gift, therefor you shouldn't be expecting one. They are already putting money out to be part of the wedding, which should be enough. Even if you feel they should have, that's nothing to call them out for. Unless you feel like that gift is more important than your friendship.

If I was you, I would be a little upset/irritated just for the fact that your MOH told other people her gift was yet to come. If there was not gift and her hosting was her gift to you, she shouldn’t have alluded to the idea that there was a tangible gift coming.

You were right to send them both Thank Yous. There is no rule that says they should or shouldn’t give a gift. I wouldn’t say a thing.

For my shower, I know my sister/MOH did the majority to the work and also paid for most of it and I didn’t expect a thing from her outside of that. A couple of my girls couldn’t even be bothered to fill out the recipe card that all attendees received. To each their own.

I have hosted several showers and have never purchased a card or a gift for the bride. Your gift is the shower.

However, I would be annoyed/offended that she told me one story and told the guests another story.

I'm not expecting MOH to get me a shower gift, the shower is her gift to me in my eyes.

You're allowed to be cheesed if she told people she got you a gift and really didn't. Just for the lying principle.

Did they plan the shower? If so, knock it off. I don't expect and I specifically told my BMs already I don't want gifts from them. They're already putting a lot of time and money into my wedding.

No one has to get you a gift, of course. I would totally be upset about the lying though. I think a card would have been nice....and I would probably be annoyed if it was me. I think a card or small gift can show a lot of love.

No, my FMIL planned/paid for my shower.

And yes, I realize gifts aren't required. I do think though that as a bridal party member especially, you'd at least be able to write down some words of well wishes.

I have to say I really agree with Katy on the cards. I guess I'm just sentimental like that.

Thanks for the input!!

My MOH didn't get me a shower or wedding gift. I think it's rude of her but I will never say anything. just let it go. and if you want to be a thoughtful person you will buy gifts for your friends weddings and showers.

I don't think OP would asking if anyone HAS to give her a gift, it sounds like she's asking if MOH/BM *typically* do (like traditionally what is the etiquette) - correct me if I'm wrong OP.

IMHO the lying is annoying, though I wouldn't mention it. I've co-hosted showers and always given a gift. I've fully-hosted a baby shower and didn't give a gift after spending many hundreds. If MOH spent time and/or $$ putting together the shower, I wouldn't expect anything else personally.