Does his sister have to be a bridesmaid?

No you don't have to make her a bridesmaid if you two are not close, in fact I would advise you not to and to keep your bridal party to only the people you feel the closest too. Also since she is not paying for the rehearsal dinner technically no she does not have a say, and its up to you if you want to include her in the planning process or not. Good Luck

What does FH think? If he feels she should be then I'd just go with it. If not then you're just going to have to explain to her that the BP has already been decided.

No. Just because someone is immediate family does not mean they are automatically required to be in the wedding party.

No. I said no even though FH and his family insisted upon it. I'm glad I did because she recently stopped speaking to most of the family and may not be attending the wedding at all.

No she doesn't have to be. Your FMIL should not assume she is.

Just buy her a corsage and end it at that.

Jeanne, your situation sounds like mines. My FH wanted his sister to be in the wedding so I felt obligated to make her a BM. Our wedding is in April and she is the only BM that still has not ordered her dress. I'm not worried though, if she doesn't have it she won't walk. My family is paying for most of our wedding and his family is not contributing either. Even though my FSIL in in my wedding, I don't think you have to make his sister a bridesmaid. If you decide to have her in your wedding for any reason other than your choice, you will regret it later.

My sister and I have a love/hate relationship. She was going to be my MOH but she tends to turn into a royal witch when she doesn't get her way. We got into a huge fight the day I got engaged because a loan to get her a house didn't go thru and I wouldn't continue in the process of taking out a loan to buy a place and she got mad.

No one ever agrees with me but I'm of the mentality that siblings should be in weddings. Especially if it's important to DH. I would have been really upset if my brother hasn't been in my wedding.

My FH and her do not get along. They do but seeing as he is like her dad and wants her to do well in school and date decent guys, she's immature and still in the mind set he is out to ruin her life instead of protect her. My sister said to let her in so she doesn't wear a dress showing her but and the makeup girl can show her how to do her makeup she does that raccoon eyeliner its ridiculous.

I'm pretty sad that my brother isn't in the wedding party but FH only wanted his brothers, we both agreed to make him the emcee instead, he's got the right personality for it. I had hoped to be in the bridal party for his wedding to but wasn't so they had me do a reading during the ceremony instead. There are other ways to honour a sibling other than being in the bridal party.

No.

I am not having my FSIL in my wedding. My FH and his sister arent particularly close, i think she is nice but i would not have choosen to be friends with her on my own. also my bridal party is small in comparison to other peoples, its just my sister and my best friend.

In addition to that she is getting married this summer and he is not in her wedding party soo, thats were it stands. if he had cared more i would have asked her but he felt that if i did then he would have to ask her fiancee and also be in their wedding, he didn't want to do that.

I think it would have been different if i had 6 BMs but i only have the two and he has 3 GM

We've had drama in my family over this. I was a BM in my brother's wedding even though I hardly knew my SIL. It was nice to be asked but a little awkward for me and expensive. For my wedding, I'm very close to my brother but didn't want to force my FH to choose him as a groomsman. My mother was adamant that he be a groomsman and was crying about it multiple times. Ultimately, I asked him to be in the bridal party (he could stand on my side) and then FH decided to invite him to be a groomsman. For our three SILs (his brother's wives and my brother's wife), we've invited them to do a reading. They were all very honored to be included.

No. My SIL...just no.

I am also in the minority that I think its the right thing to do to have them stand. Your call though.

You do not have to make her a BM. If your fiance doesn't care, then you do not have to add her or give her any special role. I am not close with my FSIL but we are friendly. My sister is the MOH and my fiance's brother is the best man, and I wanted my brother included as a GM, so we were fine having each other's siblings in our bridal party so that all the siblings were included.

It sounds like you are pretty far along with the BM planning (already picked out dresses and shoes) so it would be odd and seem like an after-thought now. Plus since your mom is paying for everything it would be a significant added expense.

No pay, no say!! Your FMIL can have an opinion but you do not need to listen to it or follow it at all If you need to say something to your FMIL though, have your fiance do it.

I'm sorry but I would be really upset if FH didn't have my brother as a groomsman. Maybe other people have different relationships with their fam but to me my fam is everything. I think it's the right thing to do

I had doubts when I was first deciding about my FH sister too... What made me decide was that I put myself in her shoes and realized I'd be hurt if she didn't ask me if it was her wedding, and even if we aren't that close right now the wedding will make us closer! We are gonna be in each other's lives for a while so why not

No. I don't expect FH to put my 6 brothers in the wedding.