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Does engagement party invite equal wedding invite?

LisaKitty, on June 13, 2014 at 5:30 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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So FH and I decided to host an engagement party, very casual potluck style affair at our house. Actually, it was more of our using the engagement as an excuse to throw a party, since we love to entertain. As is our standard practice, we threw the invite up on Facebook for anyone in the area who we thought might want to come, a little over 150 people. We are expecting 30-40 to actually show up. However, this now has me wondering, are all these people now going to be expecting invitations to the wedding? And are we going to be obligated to include everyone who shows up to our engagement party, even though they might not have otherwise made the cut?

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Latest activity by KarenM, on June 13, 2014 at 6:21 PM

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Kimberly · on June 13, 2014 at 5:32 PM
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As a guest, if I attend your engagement party I would probably assume I'd be invited to the wedding. As far as I know, it's proper etiquette to extend a wedding invitation to your engagement party guests.
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Dee · on June 13, 2014 at 5:32 PM
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Since it's such a casual come one come all type of party, I would think most people would assume its not a guaranteed invite. Typically though, etiquette says don't extend an invite to someone you are not sure or know you won't be inviting to your wedding.
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Future Mrs. Elliott · on June 13, 2014 at 5:37 PM
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I would assume since it was invitation through Facebook, no I don't think all these people expect to be invited.

For example, my engagement party has formal invitations, and all of these people will be invited to the wedding, if i was inviting anyone who wanted to come, or could come, that was close to us, just to throw a fun "let's celebrate" party, I don't think anyone would be offended if they weren't invited to the wedding.
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MinD · on June 13, 2014 at 6:05 PM
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Proper etiquette is that everyone invited to the Engagement Party should receive an invitation to the wedding. But that would be up to you if you choose to do so or not.
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Emma · on June 13, 2014 at 6:16 PM
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Hmmm yeah, if you invite people to an engagement party, you usually need to invite them to the wedding. But with Facebook invites? I dunno ... sounds complicated.
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Shawna · on June 13, 2014 at 6:17 PM
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I agree with a lot of the comments here already, but would add that I think it's a good idea to take into consideration the type of wedding you're having. If you're having a small and intimate wedding, then I believe most people will understand limited invitations and your desire to still celebrate with friends. If you're inviting 200+ guests (for example) and invited me to your engagement party, bridal shower, etc, but not to the wedding, my feelings would probably be hurt.
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KarenM · on June 13, 2014 at 6:21 PM
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If you're calling it an engagement party, then you should only invite people who are also invited to the wedding. If I go to an engagement party, I most definitely expect to attend the wedding.
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KarenM · on June 13, 2014 at 6:21 PM
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If you're calling it an engagement party, then you should only invite people who are also invited to the wedding. If I go to an engagement party, I most definitely expect to attend the wedding.
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