Does anyone use "Speak now or forever hold your peace"?

Any time I see this in movies or shows, this part always makes me cringe just slightly lol it's an awkward pause, as everyone looks around to see who may speak up.

We won't have this. I'd be curious to hear interesting stories from those who have witnessed someone speak up at this part!

I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where this was actually asked. I'll skip it!

Our officiant/we were going to include it, but since my dad said he would actually speak up we decided to drop it out of the ceremony

I have been to weddings where they use this. We will not be using it.

Yes, it was part of my ceremony. This in the wedding liturgy of the Episcopal Church and removing it is not an option for anyone who wants to be married in the church. It's first charged to the couple to speak up if there is a reason they cannot marry, then it is asked of the crowd with that classic line used for drama in Romantic Comedies. My priest gave a brief pause after each question then the service moves right along.

Though in the Episcopal Church the only objections that count are ones that have to do with the legality of the marriage. "The groom is still married to someone else" is a valid objection. "I don't approve" and "I'm in love with the bride" are not lol

I have been to weddings where it is said and it is a really awkward moment of silence. I doesn't really even have a true affect on the ceremony. The two people usually still get married if anyone objects, and if you plan to object you shouldn't be a part of the couples day.
We won't have that line in our ceremony.

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You've actually seen someone object at a wedding?

I've definitely watched enough soap operas and dramatic movies to know that this is definitely not something I want said at my wedding, lol.

We did not include it, but it has been included in many church weddings I've attended. Like PPs mentioned, it’s more about the legality of whether the two people can be married.

We are changing it up slightly. Our officiant said it has something to do with a legal requirement in our area but, that it doesn't have to be worded specifically that way. To meet the requirement she will be doing a charge to each of us privately prior to the ceremony ensuring that there are no legal requirements why we can't be married. During the ceremony she will instead ask who supports this couple in their marriage and the guests will answer "we do". This puts a positive spin on it instead of the dreaded pause you expect with the traditional phrasing.

We don't plan to use this. I also don't think that any of the weddings I attended recently have used this line.

I highly doubt that I would use this... It is a little awkward. Especially since everyone has been invited and are supposed to be celebrating you. It just makes it uncomfortable especially if someone ACTUALLY speaks out.

No it wont. We are using, "if anyone has reason why these two should not be married, SHUSH." Lol

Been married twice, never said it at either wedding.

I think there's something with this in the script for our ceremony, but it's not phrased the same way. I really don't care about it at all. In my mind, when I've heard it, it's always been a formality and no one has ever spoken up. I'm really not worried about it. Although I do understand if others want to remove it.

Our officiant said she never says that and that’s fine with us! Lol. I have attended weddings where they have though!

I will not be using that! Lol! i think it makes for a super awkward moment!

We are planning to change it up...."If anyone has any reason......blah blah blah....Just keep it to yourselves!".

Most of the weddings I've been to have it, but the officiant has almost always said it as a joke.