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Just Said Yes December 2018

Does anyone know of a Catholic priest in Puerto Rico that will do outside ceremony?

Violette, on December 19, 2017 at 12:55 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 10
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My fiance and I are both Catholic. I (bride) belong to a parish in NJ, he on the other hand does not but has been baptized. We decided on a wedding in Puerto Rico, because his mother has been diagnosed with several illnesses, which prevented her of visiting PR (she was born there came to the states when she was 12). We thought it would have been nice to get married there and have her PR family there as well. My question is giving I get permission from my parish, does anyone know of a Catholic priest who will marry us at our venue (outside) and not in a church? I didn't know before booking the venue that it was "illegal " in the eyes of the church to perform ceremonies outside the church.

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Latest activity by Violette, on December 20, 2017 at 5:20 AM
  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
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    Yeah, Puerto Rico is a very catholic country, with ingrained traditions. I'm not sure you're going to find an officiant unless you go outside of catholic priests. I hope I'm wrong though and good luck!

  • D&G114
    Super January 2018
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    No. Getting married outside is one rule that isn't broken, you don't get permission to do that. Also, if you we both baptised, it must be in a church.
  • Amanda
    Master January 2017
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    You need permission, a special dispensation from the Church (not just your parish) to be married outside church walls. It is very doubtful your priest would agree to this regardless, but you would have to have a very good reason to request this be done besides “we booked an outdoor venue.” As far as I know, the only times the Church gives a dispensation for this is when someone can not physically make it into the church, like they are in a hospital bed... and even then it is extremely rare. Even if your priest would agree to it, he wouldn’t have the authority to tell another priest what to do in another diocese/country. You need permission from the Bishop. It would be incredibly tricky to have to deal with your diocese/Bishop in NJ and the diocese/Bishop in PR. I would let it go. Have your reception outdoors and a church ceremony, or have a non-Catholic outdoor ceremony.

    Online, it says: “It is virtually impossible to find an instance where a bishop will grant permission to have a wedding outside of a church if there is no logistical reason why the wedding cannot be celebrated inside parish walls and the only argument being offered by the bride-to-be merely involves aesthetics and personal preference.”
  • Susan
    VIP December 2017
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    From everything I know (I'm Greek Orthodox not Catholic), there are only a few, very limited situations where you can be married outside of the church, as pp said above. However, if you really want your outdoor ceremony, have you considered just hiring an officiant and getting legally married there and then having the marriage convalidated (I think thats the word) by the church? This would definitely be a good question for your priest.. .
  • V
    Just Said Yes December 2018
    Violette ·
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    That's not entirely true. I've seen in twice, once in NJ and once in Virginia where a priest married outside the church.... It all depends on the priest. Some aren't I guess as "strict" . I just don't know how PR is and if anyone has seen it done there. Thanks
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    I was afraid of that. My soon to be mother in law once mentioned that to me... I just wished I remembered and kept that into consideration. It' Sad, I wish I could have done this for her. Next option is flying my priest out to PR... fingers crossed. Thanks
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    Just Said Yes December 2018
    Violette ·
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    I think you miss read what I was saying or didn' read it at all... but I didn' chose a venue in PR just because. My soon to be mother in law is sick and that is where she is from, that is where her family is. It would have been nice getting everyone together. Because of the hurricane people from PR can't travel like that and I'm well off as to where I could bring a wedding to them. My mother in law is a saint and it was a genuine kind hearted decision I made for her.... so yea I "won't just let it go". It my wedding my life my decisions. Our happiness and I shouldn't settle. My question was strictly does anyone know of a Catholic priest in PR. I didn't need a lecture or a teaching or some quote you googled.
  • Sarah
    Savvy May 2018
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    Catholicswithoutachurch.org
  • Sarah
    Savvy May 2018
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    I am being married by a priest outside the church. The link I posted above is where you can hopefully find one to help you out. Smiley smile
  • Amanda
    Master January 2017
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    Actually I did it in it’s entirety, and your main question was “does anyone know of a priest who will marry us at our venue (outside) and not in a church?” And I answered that question for you. You won’t find one, because the Catholic Church doesn’t do that. I never said you shouldn’t get married in PR, there are plenty of churches in PR where you could marry. If people can travel to your outdoor location in PR, I don’t understand why it would be impossible for them to travel to a church nearby your venue in PR. It doesn’t make sense. You’re limiting yourself by insisting it be outdoors and making it a lot harder on yourself to try for something that the Church doesn’t do. You might be able to find a priest who claims to be Catholic but is actually unaffiliated with the Church or has been excommunicated and thus your marriage will not be valid in the eyes of the Church either way.
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