Does anyone have a insane grandma???

All she talk about is how handsome and smart my brother is. Then she would like oh she had a hard life (me) Seriously? I had a hard life? Just because I am handicapped?? Geez thanks, I do just fine and I worked hard to get far in life. Ok vent over.

Wow, that is so sad, NorCalBride. Thats a hard one. Have you talked to you GPa about it all? Its not fair for you or you FS to have someone that is going to put you down about your wedding, ESP. on the day of...

Brian, she been like this my whole life. She always thought I couldn't work or have a man because I am "handicapped." She even wanted me to hide my hearing aid and my left shorter arm all of my life.

Grandpa actually defends her. It makes me so mad because all of my life, she treat him like CRAP. He is like the door mat to her. All she talk about is the only man she ever loved was the man she met before grandpa.

Do your best to not include her what so ever. Don't tell her anything about the wedding and seriously talk to your FS about having the wedding somewhere else and officiated by someone else just so you DON'T have to invite her!!!!!

What she is saying is so sad and really abusive. I am curious if this is how she has always been or is this a new behavior. To answer your question, No my grandparents have all passed and NO they were never insane prior to their death. I miss them dearly.

She been like this my whole life. That is why I don't keep in touch with her. She visted me and my mom few weeks ago and she said mean things about my FS. That I cussed at her which I shouldn't have done then she hitted me hard in public, I was so embarrassed. Mom said her mom was like this since she was born.

You are right Brian, I always ignore her but when she said I will not be married, it hurts a LOT and that is hard to ignore.

I have a grandma who has been less than nice to me all my life as well. I was always too fat, too rebellious and yada yada yada yada. I did NOT include here in ANY part of the wedding and she came to the wedding just as a "guest" instead of being any integral part of our day. But if she had flat out told me something like your grandma has said about your FS, she wouldn't have been invited at all

Im sorry you have to deal with that.

Awww, I'm so sorry for you, that's awful! I would talk to your grandpa about it like Sara suggested. Family is supposed to love you unconditionally and have your best interests at heart. I might even say "Grandma, speaking about me like that really hurts my feelings and I don't like it. When I was little you and mom taught me if I didn't have anything nice not to say anything at all and I would appreciate if you would follow that rule." I'm pretty good about telling my family how I really feel. If you can't be honest with family who can you be honest with?

Wow I am sorry Lilly, it is hurtful huh? Yea the church asked me if I wanted grandma to plan the ceremony and I said no.

I have a lot of respect for grandpa, if I don't invite her, grandpa won't come. He is very protective of her and I always wonder why

Cyndi I am thinking about trying one more time with grandpa, I need to open his eyes and see that it is hurting me.

Btw, My grandma told me I was going to burn in hell.

Wow! That is terrible! I really thought I am only one with a emotionally abusive grandma.

Both of my grandparents are sexist ive just gotten thick skin once i realized how messed up it was.. If I don't wear makeup or do my hair, my Grandma won't compliment me at all.. But if I do, she'll go on for hours about how gorgeous I look.

Oh and when we mentioned engagement pictures, she told me to ask them if they could make me tanner cause I'm super pale. I was like Thanks Grandma, I know I'm pale..

I feel your pain. My grandma is pretty crazy. but unfortunately it's my mom that treats me the way your grandma treats you. I have not had a relationship with my mom for about 3 months now and have a feeling I never will again. You have to stay away from people that put you down. Keep your head up and don't let somebody else bring you down. Anytime you need to talk you can pm me. I was feeling so down not too long ago. It hurts to have family put you down, but I feel alot happier with her out of my life.

It is hurtful, but as much as I tried to "please" her when I was younger I quickly learned to give up because I was never going to be her favorite and she was never going to like me. Even though its family, and I would give anything to have my extended family be the unconditional loving supporting family that I have dreamed of, I quickly learned to cut them out of my life.

But one great thing about being married is that your husbands family is now your family and the unconditional loving grandparents that I have dreamed of, I have now in my husbands family.

That is so true Lilly!!! It's weird, my Grandpa and FH's Grandpa get along wonderfully.. I love FH's Grandpa to death and he's hilarious, and yet my Grandpa is stone cold to me! lol go figure

just take it one day at a time, maybe it's senility? I hate to say that but my Grandmother has progressively gotten meaner over these past few years..

I thought my grandma was the only one.

She's never been really nice to me, and always comments on my weight and how I'm bigger and need to watch what I eat or wear.

I was forced into taking her with me for Prom dress shopping because she was buying it and she would not let me get the dress I really wanted because she thought I looked horrible in it

she certainly will not be invited when I try on wedding gowns.

Wow you guys are inspiring It really helps me that I am not alone and amen to have thicker skin.

Brian I know what you mean. I am starting to feel that she was raised that people like me will never get married or be successful in life. BUT being emotionally abusive is not okay in my book. Yea she thought I would never be married because I dated a lot and I am very independant. She believe that women should not be independant.

Lauren you are gorgeous, but being pale makes me laugh I rather be pale than tanned

Brandi I am so sorry about your mom, I am so grateful that my mom is NOTHING like her mom. I don't know how she talks to her mom every day because I can't.

Lilly you are right, I am looking forward to meet the grandparents

NorCal seriously. just shrug whatever she said off. Nothing is more important right now than getting hitched!!

you are going to be a wonderful gorgeous bride, let her be blissfully ignorant and out of the wedding planning.. That's how my grandparents are, mostly because I don't want them criticizing me every step of the way!!