Let me start by saying that I am incredibly fortunate and grateful to have a FMIL and FFIL that have picked up the bill for the majority of our DW wedding costs to Jamaica.
Long story short, my family (though not unfortunate, but still not wealthy) have not offered to cover any of the wedding costs, and FH and I could not have made it as wonderful as it is, without the FIL's help.
FH and I went to dinner with my FMIL last night, and during casual conversation, she brought up that "the wedding has went above and beyond the budget we expected" and that she had had a conversation with FH about it last week. After dinner, I asked FH about the conversation, and he told me that his mother didn't want to tell me, since she thought I would feel bad, that our budget is nearing the $40,000 amount, when we initially wanted to keep it around $25,000.
She told him that she does not regret it, that it is worth it because she loves us so much, but I can't help feeling extremely guilty over the cost of everything, and the fact that neither FH and I, or my parents, have been able to help.
They have been so generous, but we are spending a partial down payment on a house for one day of our lives.
I am incredibly excited for this wedding; I think everything will be beautiful and just as I envisioned since I was a little girl, but...
Has anyone else struggled with feeling guilty over the cost of everything?
I was in tears last night; I appreciate all of the generosity and help, but it is just so much money.
***Edit*** Please know, my FH and I have not requested to go above her budget. She has very much been our "wedding planner" and has purchased our venue, caterer, decorations, etc without consulting the price with us. We have given input on the style, what items we liked, what food we wanted out of the options, etc. but I have not physically spent any of her money. Its not like she has been writing me checks for things that I have gone and found for the wedding. ***
