Does a Past Proposal Matter?

It would make me think I guess, but who says they turned him down? Maybe he realized later that he made a mistake in proposing in the first place. Twice. And is now being more cautious about asking again. If he takes longer to propose to her then to the other girls maybe he's more serious??

This actually really intrigued me... I had never thought about it. Now that you bring it up though, I think its another one of those things that depends on each individual situation.

Me, personally, if it was just one turn down, I'd not let it bother me. Not all relationships are meant to be, and if she hadn't turned him down, I wouldn't have him now. But more than a few? That signals a red flag to me. What would he have done to make more than a few women turn and run?
Beyond that though, I'd be more concerned with how OUR relationship is, being that once again, his past relationships are just that, in the past. As long as everything about our relationship is as it should be, makes us both happy and feel fulfilled, then that is what truly matters

The past is just that- past. It doesn't matter why they said no, maybe he wasn't right for them. What matters is how long were they together? Did he rush into it? Maybe the timing wasn't right. So many maybes. Fh and his ex were together 3 years before they decided to get engaged. She moved and he stayed. They broke up. We have been together 7 years this past may before we decided to get engaged. He wanted to make sure I wasn't going to give up on him. Which is fine. I did kind of go through fits of "is this going anywhere, is he ever going to propose? Is he really serious about wanting to be with me for the rest of our lives?" at about the 3 and 5 year marks. I decided that it doesn't take a piece of paper to mark our commitment. What matters is how we feel about each other and what we want for our future together. And then we decided to just do it. Granted were not getting legally married. We are having a commitment ceremony and a party afterward. Which we do refer to as "our thing next year" lol

No because we've been with each other so long. We're not in our 20's anymore. Otherwise I would be a little worried about multiple proposals.
My good friend from high school proposed to EVERY girlfriend he had. When he was turned down the relationship would shortly end. Enter new woman followed by another proposal. Relationship comes to an end. Repeat. He proposed 5 times in 6 years. The 5th said yes and they are still married with kids. But it was so often and so fast we couldn't take it very serious at the time.

I'd probably think twice before accepting that proposal. I would def wonder why the other person turned him down

View Quoted Comment I understand your perspective, however, the question is about if he/she had been turned down twice by two other women/men.

View Quoted Comment The topic also intrigued me. I hadn't considered it until I watched that YouTube video. If I find it again o will share you so you can hear the full story and the YouTubers full response.
A few failed proposes is also a red flag to me but then again this is very situational.

View Quoted Comment I discussed this with my husband and we also mentioned how long they'd been together. My husband and I were also together for 7 years before he proposed so u completely understand your perspective.

View Quoted Comment When I heard this story I questioned if the guy we're a serial proposer because that's a red flag for me.

View Quoted Comment I also would wonder why the proposals were turned down and I'd want to discuss it. The past is the past but patterns also matter.