DOC vs Host Couple

I have never heard of a host couple before, and I would never insult my friends or family like that. You are correct to hire a DOC to have them handle those things.

I don't have a host couple, but my DOC did ask for a day of contact person. Basically someone else who knows what should go where and how everything should look, so they don't have to come bother you with small questions on the day.

You're not wrong. No one you have invited as a guest, should spend the day working.

https://www.topweddingquestions.com/blog/wedding-host-couples-etiquette/

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/host-couple/9f5bf7d72c340ff7.html

I for one have never heard of a "host couple". I would just hire a DOC, to me having a host couple sounds like another way to get loved ones to do free labor.

That is the job of a DOC. I have never heard of host couple. Let your guest enjoy their time.

I have never heard of that. Sounds like a day of coordinator?

You're correct. your DOC handles pretty much everything. Everyone else should be enjoying party. One person ( like an aunt, cousin, etc.) may be asked to be a contact person but the DOC in the event that a small question needs to be answered , but that should be it.

I have a coordinator and that's in her duties already (she gave me PAGES of the things covered in her title). I've never heard of a host couple. If you know someone willing to do it, it would probably save you some money in the long run. If not, I'd say hire a coordinator

Okay! Very reassuring! We are hiring a DOC either way I was just caught off guard with the whole Host Couple thing! We have a pretty large guest list, strict rules at the venue, and can't start setting up until the morning of AND 3 vendors so far that won't take payment until the day of of so I definitely feel like I need a DOC. My sister and a BM both offered to be day of contacts if need so I was really not sure what a Host Couple would even do. I didn't feel it was right to ask a friend couple to basically supervise guests and tie up my loose ends. If i had a couple I felt was close enough to 'assign' these things to I would obviously want to invite them as guests and have them enjoy the celebration too! Thank you all for reassuring me!!

No a just couple isn't Necessary. A DOC and their assistant should be able to handle what you need.

Never have heard of a host couple. My DOC would know the details of where things need to go and what not.

I think you and your fi are the host couple, no?

I have never heard of a host couple. Not even here on WW. Wonder where your friend got her info because that sounds like a one off--maybe she went to a wedding and saw it but it's not needed. Your DOC will handle all those tasks but she/he may ask for a point of contact person who will have WP numbers just in case. I gave my DOC my MOH's number but she never needed to use it because she was super professional and on top of everything.

Do not ask your Aunt to do those tasks. Guests at weddings know how to sign a guest book. (Sign in? I don't think guests 'sign in'.) You should have assigned tables and a chart, sign, or table with place cards listing the guest's names and their assigned tables--your DOC can help couples find tables if they are so scattered that they can't find their numbered table on their own. Also have a welcome sign --usually where your DOC will stand to welcome guests. See? No need for your aunt to do any duties so she can relax and be a guest.

I'd never heard of a host couple until it was mentioned here, and honestly, I think it's kind of rude.

DOC all the way.

@Kari she said she had a Host Couple at her wedding! Yes sign the book, sign in was bad wording. We definitely plan to have assigned tables and a chart to let people know what table they will be at. I guess I'm worried because we have a large guest list and lots of tables, that's guest will be a little lost finding the correct table. Perhaps that's not a real concern!

Mercedes, is your friend from a different country where host couples are typical? I've married couples from a lot of different countries and have not heard of this.

@Nancy T no! She's just a regular lady from Nebraska like me!

@Mercedes I'm from Nebraska too!

I've been to several weddings with host couples. My parents were the host couple for my cousn's wedding. I don't think it's necessary. My family does them but we're not having one.