Do you think marriage is scary?

I was not scared or nervous at all. We were 52 when we wed last fall, we had lived together for two years, together for 4 and half total so I was ready. I was divorced and I had no room for doubt this time.....and I had none. (Hubby was a first time groom at 52!!)

Not scared at all! We have been engaged 17 months now, but he proposed after 6! I know FH is 100% the one made for me, so I am nothing but excited!!! Lol

I was very nervous but I think it was a normal reaction, marriage is a forever thing. In my opinion there are people out there who are so scared they won't get married, I'm a firm believer that life is a giant "what if" and if we don't take a leap of faith then we don't experience the possibility of amazing things. I think a little scared is normal and okay too.

I am not scared. Our wedding date is our 6 year anniversary. We have talked of marriage and children for five years, we only waited to get engaged because of school and living at home. It felt like a natural next move. I am wondering if it will feel any different because we have been together so long, talked about the future a lot, live together, and have pets before actually getting engaged.

I have had people ask if we are scared or nervous. I think it's because we are, with the exception of one person who is already divorced, the first of our friend group to get married. My parents are divorced and his parents are not very happily married, but I feel confident because, unlike them, we were together for years before marrying (my parents got married after being together for 2 weeks).

I'm not scared. I think my friend phrased it right when I asked her how she knew she wanted to marry her now H. She said that after a certain point, calling him her boyfriend didn't feel like it appropriately described their relationship. She wanted him to be her husband. I hit that point too. We're ready and to me, there's nothing scary about that.

But maybe it's because I was never interested playing the field or anything either. That being said, I'm nervous for the wedding, but not marriage itself.

Eh. I understand why some people are scared. My fh was for a while (big reason why it took about 10 years of us dating for him to propose). His parents had a bad relationship and divorced when he was a teen. There were a lot of reasons why they were not right for each other and once he figured that out, I think he realized we're not going to be like them. Now, he likes to sporadically tell me "you're gonna be my wife" and "we're getting married" so he's excited.

My hubby and I have been happily married for over a year now and I don't find marriage to be scary at all and I was not scared to marry him. I was excited, happy, and looking forward to marry him. My parents are divorced and it still didn't scare me to get married to my hubby. His parents are divorced too.

I know my mom was nervous/scared before her and my dad's wedding (they were 23 and 22) because she tells this story about how she was kind of freaking out a little and my dad was trying to soothe her by being like "Hey hey, it's fine, we're great. See I'm not nervous, there's no reason to be nervous, this is going to be awesome!" and my mom shot back "If you're not nervous about this then you clearly have NO idea how serious a commitment we're about to make!!" My dad usually takes over telling the story at this point and says how he then immediately "admitted" to her that he was actually really nervous too. Then I ask "were you really?" And he says "NEVER! Not for one single moment." :-)

I can say that even though I had been with my now ex husband for 9 years when we got married (we were 16 when we met), I was scared. And it should have been a huge red flag. I was terrified that I was settling. And I was. He stayed perpetually 18 years old and we grew apart. After we divorced (which was pretty amicable), I always said I would not marry again unless I was all in.

I met my now FH 5 years ago. After the first month, we both just knew. It was like velcro. We couldn't marry sooner. He had to clean up some messes that his ex left him with. He worked really hard and he did it. I couldn't be prouder of him. We are a great team. Even though he went through hell with his ex, he is just as excited as I am that we finally get to be Mr & Mrs!

If you are genuinely scared, take a look at the root of the fear. Try to work through it before the marriage. Problems don't go away after the "I Do's". Don't think you can change a person in to what you want them to be. The odds of that are very small. You will be so much better off to work things out (or not) before the wedding than to deal with the aftermath.

Great mindset! It's not often you hear from someone of your age (I'm sorry if you get that a lot lol) but it's good to know that you don't feel that way. I'm not scared either because I feel like if we accepted the proposal and SO was ready to propose then you're ready for that next step. I mean not that we're 100% ready for everything in life because new things can be nerve-wracking but having one another's support should make it less scary if that makes sense. I feel like FH and I are going through all the motions right now before marriage and I'm kinda glad because I feel like it'll make us stronger. And I think it's normal to have many roadblocks before marriage because we are making adjustments in many ways.

Nope! Only thing I'm nervous about is being the center of attention but the actual being married part. Not one bit. I also come from a family of divorce. If I wasn't 150% sure my FH was my person, I wouldn't marry him.

I’m 21 and have been with my FW for almost two years and I’m not scared at all. When you know you know! Although I do understand why people get scared or nervous, it’s a big life change

I am not scared at all I'm so excited that we are finally taking the next step inmoit relationship. Weve been together going on 12 years in August. So i know we are meant to be.

I was not scared at all to marry my husband. I'm in my 40s and had honestly never been in a serious relationship. I'm very independent and never went out with anyone that I could see myself with long-term. The first night I met my husband I knew but kept thinking this is crazy I can't love him already. We spent every day together and after a week I was basically living with him. He said he loved me after just 3 days, it took me a week to say I loved him too. After just 2 weeks we were looking at engagement rings. I'm sometimes indecisive about things and really need to think things through. With him I knew without a doubt I wanted to marry him. I'd known him for about a year and a half when we got married last October. I was not scared at all.

Not scared at all, I feel like assuming people are afraid of marriage is a very unhealthy cliché! I’m also 21, I’ve been with FH for 2.5 years and have never had a sliver of “fear” about committing to the person I love and who makes me happy!

I met my ex when I was 16 and he was 20. At 17.5 yrs old I got prego. We then got married when I was 18, 5 weeks before my child was born.
Within that 5 weeks I knew I shouldn’t of got married. We never lived together. And lots of things popped up that seemed like he hid until we were married.
I touched it out for 12 years and had another child as well.
I outgrew him and I grew up and changed. With every step I took towards bettering myself(jobs, weight loss etc) he hated it. Despised it. Didn’t support me. He was not a present parent either.
I left him after he cheated-again- and I was done and strong enough to leave.
i took our kids and he didn’t even care to fight and only wanted 4 days a month with them.

When i met my FH he was different. He was nice and it’s like we were on same wave length. We did live together first. For me was important given my last go round. Plus we each had kids we needed to see mesh.
Even though my 1st go round when I was young was rocky and more hard/bad years than not. I am not afraid to marry again.

They say say your brain makes it’s last growth in your mid/late 20s and that’s when you really become you. I believe that now looking back. I really started making changes in myself and growing around 26. By 30 I was divorced.

I’ve been with my FH since our senior year of high school, and now we’re both 24! After meeting him he instantly felt like my soulmate. It just feels right. After dating so long the title of “boyfriend” wasn’t even close to how I felt about him. We’ve been talking about getting married for years, we always knew it was the next step. We grew up and are still growing up together and it’s honestly beautiful how we’ve both become better people in general! I guess the only thing I’m scared of is the money.

Not scared to marry my best friend. We have been waiting for this moment for so long!!! Because friends when I was 14. Fell in love at 16. Drama happened and we couldn't talk till I was 18. Took things slow and Started dating at 20. Engaged at 22! Getting married at 23... yup... we cant wait lol