Do you think it is wrong to move my wedding date?

Dear wondeful moment--

I agree that time definitely flies! If money troubles are a concern, then i dont see it being wrong to move your wedding date.

My fiance was laid off this time last year - and was unemployed for over 6 months. We could have borrowed money from credit cards and gotten a loan - but we did not want to start our marriage in huge debt - so we postponed our wedding one full year.

Since you have not signed any contracts, moving the date is going to be easy.

I dont regret for one moment moving our wedding one year; it has saved us alot of headache.

Good luck with whatever decision you two make! =)

Wonderful Moments,

I am a Wedding Planner/Coordinator and have been through these kinds of situations before...First of all, both your wedding date and potential wedding dates are pretty far away - that's a good thing! If the dates were closer and your wedding part had already taken work off, purchased their dresses, etc. it would be more complicated.

Since you don't have any of those issues - I say go for it! Anything you can do to relieve stress on you and your fiance is a smart move!

Good luck!

I know how you feel. We've changed our wedding date 3 times since we got engaged. We have finally settled for 2010. My wedding planners tell us that a lot of couples are planning about 2 years ahead now. Times are hard! Since you are looking to push your date, consider hiring a planner. Stress will only get worse. As far as family and friends, they will understand. Look at the times we are living in, everyone is feeling the crunch. Life must go on beyond your wedding day. Good Luck and go to 2hearts-1soul.com, they have free consultations, never hurts to get an expert's opinion.

I don't think that it would be an issue for you to move your wedding date. With the current state of the economy, I think that people will understand postponing the date. The fact that you haven't paid any deposits, or had anyone purchse anything is a great help. FOr people that don't understand, it is not their day, or their finances. You need to think about yourself and your relationship first. You shouldn't start you marriage with any more stress than necessary. I would suggest picking a new date sometime soon. What we did is sit down and create a budget where we are able to put some money into a savings account each month that is specifically for the wedding. That way we have a idea of how long it will take us to save the money we need. We scheduled the date 2 months after the date when we should have all of the money that we need. That way, we have a cushion pending anything that needs to go overbudget or if an emergency arises before then. It has redused our stress tenfold!

Absolutely!! You will want to start your life together as stress free and debt free as possible. It is your "wonderful moment" and you choose when it happens. Do not be guilted or guided by family opinion.

Hi Wonderful M,

Move the date as much as you want! It's your day and putting yourself in a financial bind will not help your future together. When considering feelings over smart decisions, go with smart decisions! Your guests will understand. Have a great 2010 wedding!!

I Know exactly How You Feel... haha Im 17 years old adn my wedding is 8 Months away... im going crazyy.. my wedding date was only 10 months away from my engagement. but i think its absolutly Ok to change the date.. im sure your family and friends would understand...

Good Luck =D

I am coming across many couples lately that are postponing their weddings. Times are tough and your family will understand. You have allot going on and with wedding arrangements it might stress you out more. You have started to think about finances ahead of time and I am very glad to hear that your are doing so. Make plans when you are financially and spiritually ready.

I hope this helps - Mekhla

Congrats Wonderful Moment,

I am a certified Bridal Consulant/Planner based in Richmond, VA and I agree 100% on moving your date to alleviate on most of your stress, on the other hand you should definitley consult with your fiance' about hiring a planner. Planners such as myself are trained to work under a small budget, and make a little money go a long way. In this economy NO one has extra money just to throw away, so I understand totally. Since your dad has agreed to pay for half, that is the good thing. I think that my team will definitley be able to work out a package for you! Please contact me for your customized package, and if you have ANY questions.

Thanks,

Morgan Crawley

Manager Senior Consultant

804-504-6880

***************@*****.***

You are being very prudent and smart for moving your wedding to a timeframe where you do not feel financially stressed. I say go for it and do not look back. Anyone who has a problem with it, brush it off and do not take it personally.

Only you know what your boundaries are and your wedding should NOT cause financial stress in your life. It is time to be the best, most beautiful, most stress-free you. Nothing more - nothing less.

You have to remember one thing - THIS IS ABOUT YOU! This is your wedding! Stress will eat you up, so plan it for when YOU are comfortable, everyone will understand and probably be right there behide you on it.

Also, "If" you do move the wedding date out to 2010, don't forget to put your Tax money away, if you do get some back. This would give you this coming Tax Return and next years Tax Return money to set aside for your wedding. Don't let the stress get the best of you!

Move the date! It is much better to move the date to have less of a financial burden on both you and your FI as well as you father. Family will understand, besides its not like the date is in just a few monthes, its still about 10 months away!!