Do you think inviting people to the reception but not the ceremony is rude?

WAS!!????? What's with all the boring ceremony talk?

Now you're making me depressed ;-(

Note to self. Get Elvis costume dry-cleaned.

Hahaha Celia! :p

We are having a small ceremony. The only non-family members are the groomsmen. Ours is so small, the grooms men's girlfriends are not invited. It's perfectly acceptable. Most people prefer the party part anyway.

Just curious what you mean by small by design. We are having a pretty basic wedding anyway because we have a really tight budget ($3,000). The double invitation is a bit much I think, but two different invitations, one for those coming to both and one for just reception is doable. Also, as far as a babysitter for the day, it won't be necessary anyhow because it is going to be a dessert reception. We are planning on the ceremony only being 30 minutes or so long anyhow, and at like 6:30 in the evening.

I don't think its rude. Why would you get offended? Its not your day its theirs and they may not be able to afford your plate. So be grateful for the ceremony. IJS

Samantha and Danielle, are you both in Paw Paw, MI? I'm in Jackson! Lol small world.

Anyways, not at all rude. I would like to skip the boring part to drink and dance anyhow. It's when you go the opposite way (big ceremony, small vip reception) that people get ticked off. But at the end of the day...it's YOUR special day!

I meant that if you're not going to invite everyone to the ceremony, don't just invite until you run out of room; be intentional about who you invite to the ceremony itself. Decide that you're going to invite immediate family and their partners and your VERY best friends, and make that your list, whether or not you have more seats.

BUT, if it's only dessert, you may want to go earlier or later; 6:30-7:00 is definitely dinner time.

And geez everyone stop calling us the boring part!!! I"m getting a complex!

I love you Celia .. I would never call you boring !!

Yes. It's rude.

I love how you leave no reasoning, Brittany.

Jennifer...yay for Michiganians!

I think I am going to go with the limited ceremony and open to everyone reception. That way, if people would like to eat dinner at 6:30, they can since the reception won't be until 7:30 or so. I understand that's dinner time, but so is 5...not like they can't eat a little earlier. I don't want to go too late because that shortens my reception time. I don't want to go earlier because that either means having it in the middle of the day (like 1), so that people can eat at a normal time...and that just feels weird.

I don't know. I personally think that anyone who invites me to their reception but NOT their ceremony didn't really want me there in the first place. In my opinion, an invite like that gets me off the hook for a gift. The problem is that folks want their cake and to eat it, too. They want the venue they want that won't hold all the people they are hoping to get a gift from.

Personally, as a guest, I would rather attend the ceremony and skip the big reception ... those things are just torture. I hate crowds. But at a wedding, the crowd isn't trying to talk to you or talk over each other and everyone is FOCUSED on something without all the pressure to interact. Just weird old me.

I received an invitation to a reception and not the ceremony just this past week. I am sure that although I am a member of the family, I've been excluded in favor of non-related people. Yet they were sure to tell me they were registered for their HONEYMOON (honestly, when did that garbage become appropriate?) via some travel agency. Not getting invited to the ceremony made me wince a little. Getting invited to help pay for the honeymoon ... well, I am just APPALLED at that.