Do you still register if you're not having a shower?

If you have things you’d like/need, I’d still set up a registry, whether you have a shower or not. That way, if people ask about what you’d like, you can just mention where you’re registered. As far as the shower goes, I’d just let it go until someone offers to host one.

I’d set up a registry anyway because even if there is no shower people can still use it for the wedding. There’s always going to be at least a few people who want to get you a tangible gift and I would think you’d rather them have the registry to refer to rather than just picking out something themselves

I would totally set one up cause there will be people who want to get you gifts

I'm not having a shower because so any of our guests live far away. We are registering and having a gifts and cards table at the reception, though.

Thank you so much, everyone! You've all alleviated my paranoia about wondering if it would look bad to have a registry without a shower.

I agree set up a registry and talk with family about doing a small or/ drop in shower for you. Make the food instead of cater. Personally if I have a shower I want a bridal shower pool party. I want hot dogs, burgers and chicken on the grill. I want to get a swimsuit that says “Bride”. I want it to be simple and fun. Feel free to steal that idea if you like it!😊

I dont think Im having a bridal shower but I still registered so our guests will know what we want for wedding gifts. We registered on amazon it was really fun and easy

Definitely set up a registry (even if it's just Amazon for gift cards or things you need in general.) I seem to have some over-eager buddies - my save the dates had the wedding website on them (which had a link to the registry) and we got a few gifts straight off even though it's more than 6 months out. I think some people just want to get it out of the way, and it helps me to be able to spread out writing the thank you cards.
I don't think a registry has to be linked up with a shower. I actually think it's a bit odd too - it's been over 20 years since I've had people gather and watch me open presents. Puts some pressure on to have your "wow this is great" face ready.

Showers don't have to be costly. Like an informal party, you need a free space, a living room, a yard, a park, a church fellowship room. And desserts and coffee and cold beverages. Most daytime showers or evening ones do not include liquor, unless all are a young drinking crowd. It is the friendship and fun. If you have many friends, and a large family, you can have two small showers, either in 2 locations, because most people don't travel far for a shower ( except bride) , or one for family and friends friends, and another for peer friends. Keeping the numbers down isn't as much or a spectacular show. But the trade-off is a nice, intimate gathering, with 10-20 gifts to open, so you have time to be relaxed, talk to people and thank them as they open their gifts. Any female family, any friend close enough to be invited, of FI's family women can do one. It has never been limited to bridal party or moms. Friends not otherwise involved with the wedding ( but invited) can volunteer. Sometimes that works best, when budget is an issue, because while bridal party are paying for dresses and such, other friends, or aunts or sisters, are not. The point isn't whether you have catered food, at $25 per person for desserts and coffees, or tea and sandwiches. Or a budget of $125 total for 20 people including ingredients for hostesses to bake brownies and cheesecakes, and buy ice cream and things for a make your own Sundae bar. My cousins and nieces just gave a young friends and family shower at my home, big space and table that seats 20. Since this time of year is often snowy they planned a full meal, because in a rural area driving in snow is slow. People need a meal. They spent $60 at the store for 5 pounds chicken, another 5 pounds sirloin tips. About $20 for vegetables. And bought ricotta and spinach for about $8 bucks. The 3 bridesmaids split that cost. 3 other friends baked a layer cake, brownies with a caramel layer, and I made a tray of baklava for something else, and made one for them too. A very cheap, full dinner with a choice of sirloin tips or barbecued chicken of a baked ricotta and spinach dish, with veg on a skewer, or salad. Choice of desert. One about $20 big bottle of coffee liqueur, coffee, cocoa, soda, or water. And someone hit a party store for streamers, balloons and a hellium tank. Add it up. $25 each hostess, money leftover . So don't feel it has to be a burden on people. They always have a choice of a low cost, do the work not pay a caterer, desserts only, or full meal shower. If they want to do it, assure them you will only come to something not a lot of money. Meanwhile, though some areas and groups give mostly cash at wedding time, much of the US still mist wedding gifts are still boxed gifts, from a registry, hand made, or purchased off registry. Retail industry says more than 3/4 ( I forget %) of all registry gifts are for the wedding gift, not shower. Traditionally, both were not money but physical gifts, except older family who might give money also, except in a couple specific cultural groups. So though that has changed for some people, others give gifts of stuff or nothing, never cash. We got some checks from older family, but over 240 wedding gifts, things, including many from people who did not get invited, or could not come, but sent presents. Plus shower gifts, far fewer. One of my sister's got only 6 wedding gifts from his side, rest about 30 checks, and over a hundred gifts from our side and friends. Same size wedding. So be prepared to keep a registry of smaller and larger items, shower and registry, unless you know everyone does something specific.

I still would, even if it is just for a few things!

You can still have a registry for wedding gifts.