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Just Said Yes February 2021

Do you share everything with your partner?

Sophia, on November 28, 2022 at 11:02 PM Posted in Planning 1 8

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So my sister have a very different relationship with her husband where she shares almost nothing with him because she doesn't trust him.
For example, she shared her story with her ex boyfriend and now every time he reminds her why her ex left her... etc
I typically share everything with my husband because who else I'm going to share my drama with 😂
A few times now she told me to stop sharing everything with my husband because one day he will taunt me with it. I have been with my husband for years and never ever that happened. I'd probably leave him if he didHer and her husband almost got a divorce a few months back and she was telling me about and then she also said "don't tell your husband"Earlier she called me and said her and her husband are planning a vacation "don't tell your husband"
I finally got mad and ask her to stop telling me things if she is going to say "don't tell your husband"I literally hate it. He is not a stranger and of course I'm going to tell him all about my day
Someone please tell me if I'm in the wrong. I don't understand the part where "don't tell your husband" like why

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Michael · on November 28, 2022 at 11:21 PM
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Well... if your sister tells secrets that you share with your husband, it would be good to know that he would not share this with others. If the sister has considered divorce, for example, that should not be shared with others since that could make the situation worse for your sister. Her sharing with you is probably to get some friendly ear to listen to her issues. This is not an opportunity to generate rumors from her chats. It would help that you just remind her that pretty much everything is shared with your husband.
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Bird · on November 29, 2022 at 6:32 AM
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I shared things with my ex boyfriend and then he taunted me about them for years. I eventually realized what kind of man he was: narcissistic and manipulative and emotionally abusive. Im not saying your sisters husband had these traits but taunting your wife about her personal life and instilling fear in her about sharing anything else does not sound healthy. Unfortunately, I wouldn’t meddle in her life and let her work this out on her own.

I hope you continue to have a wonderful relationship with your husband and keep sharing things!
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Hannah Online · on November 29, 2022 at 7:15 AM
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Yikes. I tell my husband literally everything. He is my partner and my best friend and trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship. I’m sorry your sister cannot trust her husband, but that is definitely not an issue you have to deal with. She does.
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Michelle · on November 29, 2022 at 9:22 AM
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I took this as your sister telling you she wants a relationship with you, not all 3 of you by way of pillow talk later. No one likes to feel they are the subject of gossip no matter how innocuous. Keep your sister stuff separate from your partner stuff. Privacy is not hard if someone specifically asks for it.
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Willow · on November 29, 2022 at 10:01 AM
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Your sister is in an emotionally abusive relationship where she has lost trust in her husband. This problem goes beyond whether it's normal to share everything with your partner.

I'd remind her that her husband's behavior is abusive, designed to bring her down so she feels unworthy and trapped, it has made her overly defensive, she should get an INDIVIDUAL and not conjoint therapist to help her process her obvious trauma and leave this sorry excuse of a man once and for all. She desperately needs a safe space and confidante and she doesn't have one in her husband. He weaponizes everything against her. She has lost her ability to see that not everyone is like this and she can do better.
Hence the reason for "don't tell your husband."
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jalisa · on December 9, 2022 at 12:40 AM
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Nope we share it all!!!! 😍
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Rosalie · on December 17, 2022 at 1:31 PM
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Not everything. A lot of things, but certain things should stay in the past.
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