Do you really dont get to eat at your wedding???

It’s can be a thing, but we definitely made sure we got to eat. Our DOC made sure we had appetizers during cocktail hour and then we were served our first course as soon as we sat down at our sweetheart table after our first dance.

I'm sure it does happen to people who aren't good at planning ahead. You have to be deliberate about making some time for it. We will have a sweetheart table so hopefully that will help us "get away from the crowd" for a few minutes. We also have a sweetheart cake so we'll at least have a slice at the cake cutting. When I say this, people IRL have laughed at me and said "You won't get to eat, just accept it." So trying to be aware of the problem and nip it in the bud.

It is really a thing. So many people came up to my brother and sil at their wedding (at a sweetheart table) that my sil didn't eat - though she did get a lot to drink (and a bad hangover). We agreed before our wedding that we would make sure to eat. The key is to make sure you make eating a priority. Even when someone comes and interrupts your meal, you have to keep eating.

I don’t understand either. In my experience as both a guest and a bridesmaid, whenever there is a full meal, the couple does get to eat. The couple utilizes their time so they are able to greet everyone at the end of the ceremony (everyone is invited to both as they are held back to back) and they don’t do table visits for guests because it is a time waster and cuts into dancing time.


I had mentioned to a couple different past brides the idea that they don’t get to eat and was told “then those couples chose not to eat because it’s not difficult if you want to eat “.

Yep, totally a thing. Our caterers and wedding planners are instructed to feed us right after our grand entrance, while everyone else is at the buffet line.

I definitely ate but i didn't eat THAT much either.

but it really is a thing. the reason being is that you might look at your schedule and think oh sure i can find 15 minutes for myself to eat because that seems like not a big deal. but here's the thing ... people come up to you, people want to socialize with you and you end up finding that you're playing host because you ARE the host.

We ate. It was a priority for us. Plus we didn’t really have anyone come interrupt us so 🤷‍♀️
If it’s a priority for you, then make a plan for it to happen. Have some line in mind to use if you get interrupted.
I love to have this conversation with you when I’m done. I’ll get back to you on thatOr something like that.

So we are going to have 20- 30 minutes after we do dances and cut the cake where my FH and I will be able to slip away to a private room and they will have a plated meal for us and our wedding coordinator will come get us when we need to go back to the reception. But that is what we came up with to ensure that 1. We got a chance to actually eat and 2. We had a few minutes to ourselves to catch our breath and enjoy each other after the ceremony

I don't get it either. I ate at our wedding. The server brought us the appetizers from the cocktail hour but my stomach was still in knots and I couldn't eat yet. I'm disappointed too, I heard our specialty cocktail and appetizers were really good. We had a small 35 person reception and we all ate the courses, cake, and ice cream. Our wedding planner left boxed food in our suite and we ate that too. If you don't think you'll eat at the reception, you should make plans to have something in your room for after. And don't forget a bottle opener and wine opener.

It can be a thing but if you budget your time you should be able to eat some. Also make sure you eat earlier in the day before everything kicks off.

It’s a thing. I didn’t eat a bite during our cocktail hour, but at the very end mentioned that to one of our groomsmen and he got me a plate from our mashed potato bar, which was super appreciated.
Then, when we sat down at our sweetheart table, one of our personal servers asked if there was anything in particular I wanted from the buffet, and I mentioned I wished I had a crab cake at cocktail hour, plus the proteins and a few side items on the buffet. She kindly brought me a few crab cakes, as well as the items I requested.
I had half a crab cake, a bite of steak and a bite of Mac and cheese before someone came up to our sweetheart table. I left the table then and didn’t return to my seat or my meal. People were just so excited to interact with us, even though we were super present during most of cocktail hour. And once I was up and mingling, I was having too much fun to sit and eat.We had a full tasting so I had tried literally everything we served, and honestly, though I was hungry later and in the morning, it was worth it to spend time with the people who spent time and money to come celebrate with us!

I have heard it is a thing for more than one couple. However, I agree with you, how do you not carve out time to sit down and eat? My cousin had a buffet her and her husband were served first. Then each table was called up. Perhaps discuss with the venue having you and your other half served first. That way you have time to enjoy your food.

We purposely blocked 60 mins out to not only eat everything on our plate but for dessert as well. There was no way I was going to spend all that money on a plate of food and not be able to eat it, lol.

I'm a bit worried about this because we are having quite a few guests but I figure we will give them something to do while we get our 15 mins to eat. Especially because I'm hypoglycemic and I need to eat every few hours or I'll pass out. Don't want to be one of those brides who passes out at her own wedding

We've actually talked to our venue about this already. We're leaving our cocktail hour about 15 minutes early (to get ready for grand entrance but also because they'll set aside a plate with all the appetizers for us and we can have a private tasting of them). Then we'll be served at our sweetheart table before everyone else gets their food from the buffet, so we'll at least have about 15-20 minutes while they're going through the line and eating. Then we're doing cake tasting and later there will be a dessert buffet too and they'll serve us a platter of all of those.

Beforehand, I'm planning on having a brunch spread for the girls while we get ready (and my FMIL is doing something similar for the guys at her house) and then a hoagie platter and some simple sides (like a philly pretzel platter) in the bridal suite for the wedding party during pictures and before the ceremony.

I don't want any of our wedding party to go hungry or get wasted on empty stomachs. So we wanted to make sure there was plenty available.

No, that's super dumb. Eat during dinner with everyone else, i dont' know why people dont' do that? Just plan well and you'll be fine.

Some people don't becuase they're doing table visits. As a guest I hate that way of greeting guests and far prefer a receiving line or welcome line to the reception or something. I dont' like the idea of interrupting people while they're eating and not getting to eat myself.

We actually had plenty of time to eat - we did all of our photos before our ceremony so we could join in on our cocktail hour and tried all the appetizers, then we were served first at dinner so we had plenty of time to eat, take more golden hour photos, say hello to every table, etc. My issue at least was that I was so hopped up on adrenaline that I hardly had an appetite to begin with

View Quoted Comment I agree with you on the table visits that it’s very awkward and uncomfortable for guests.

View Quoted Comment This is the one. We had plenty of time to eat. I was excited to eat! No one bothered us while we were eating because they were eating, too. The most time-sensitive events were over and now it was time to relax and enjoy the party.


But I barely ate anything because of the busy, excited, adrenaline filled day. A few bites in my stomach said "you're full now 🙂". Went out for brunch with all the parents the next day and I wore my most comfortable clothes and ate everything I could, lol, but I just couldn't eat much on my wedding day.

We totally ate! At our wedding we had 15 guests, at our local reception we had 50. When dinner starts getting served, make a beeline for your table. Tell anyone who tries to stop you you’ll catch up after dinner. 😀