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Darcy
Just Said Yes February 2025

Do you need to involve your family?

Darcy, on October 4, 2019 at 10:04 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 16
I have the worst gossiping family. I really dont want to involve them in anything related to my wedding but my fiance insists I need help. What you guys think?
I would hate for them to say bad things about my wedding before the day of. 😔

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Latest activity by Nicole, on October 6, 2019 at 10:10 AM
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    If you don't feel like they support you, don't involve them. Your fiance should understand that.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    You don't have to. Sometimes family can be stressful about these things
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  • L
    Lady ·
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    Why can't your fiance help you?

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  • Jill
    Expert April 2020
    Jill ·
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    I agree that your fiance should be helping you. You are not obligated to include your family

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·
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    Sometimes the less that family knows about the wedding the better, whether it be because they're not supportive or because they want to take control of everything. The only people who NEED to know anything other than the time, date, and location of your wedding are you and your fiance.

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  • P
    January 2014
    Pam ·
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    Next time he tells you you need help, point out that it's his wedding too and he should be the one helping. Bet that's the last time he tells you that.

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  • Dayna
    Expert September 2021
    Dayna ·
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    Are you having a bridal party? If your family is difficult, you can lean on other people like close friends and especially bridesmaids. Of course your fiance should be helping too, but there are things like hair, makeup and a dress that you will probably want someone else to help with. I don't think its necessary to involve people you think will just make it more stressful.

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  • Alyssa
    Super December 2021
    Alyssa ·
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    Involve people you trust. Your fiance, wedding planner, and bridesmaids should help if they aren't gossip queens. Also, no pay=no say. If your family is giving you a bunch of unsolicited opinions but not contributing, they can go kick rocks.

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    Dedicated September 2021
    Paris ·
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    I don't involve my family and wedding related things. They gossip and just overall negative, I don't need that energy.

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  • V
    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    The person that should be helping you the most is your fiance. If you don't trust your family, what about your bridal party? I would hope you can trust the people in your bridal party.
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    I agree with pps, your fiance should be your biggest helper right now. I have had to deal with my fair share of negative people trying to destroy the fun of wedding planning (more prominent on FH's side.) Trying to use their money as their weapon against us... trying to fish for every single detail they can get their hands on. It's so irritating and really a nuisance. We've stopped talking about the wedding with EVERY SINGLE NEGATIVE PERSON! LOL because it gives us peace of mind. It's sad that certain family members have to be this way, but unfortunately some are, and all you can do is exclude them from your plans, and invite these folks as guests and nothing more. Someone always has something negative to say. I've been wondering lately "If so and so feels such a way about my wedding and my plans, why are they even coming? More importantly why am I inviting them?" LMAO

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  • N
    Dedicated October 2020
    Neena ·
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    Do you need help? If so your fiancé should help. Or find someone you can trust to help like a friend. Or hire a coordinator. It’s really up to you who you want to involve.
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  • Fany
    Devoted October 2021
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    You shouldn’t involve those who talk negatively behind your back.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Nope, do not invite drama. Keep your vision & details to yourself so they don’t poop on your planning parade.

    Um. Your fiancé needs to help. It’s his wedding too. Most guys don’t care about decor details (invites, linens, etc). But he can help do vendor research, especially for things he may be more interested in like food & music. If he won’t help he can help pay for a planner. 😉
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  • C
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    I highly suggest including supportive open-minded people only. It seems once you start including more people, all the different opinions start to get overwhelming.
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  • Nicole
    Super October 2021
    Nicole ·
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    You don't need to involve them. Why does your fiance think you need the help? I have intentionally tried to include both our families, but its more so "what do you think of this idea" and for me its fun to share. But I don't feel overwhelmed. If need be I could make all decisions with just FH. So I think you should disucss with your fiance, but I think youd be fine to not include them.

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