Do you have to invite the Best Man’s gf?

Unless this person is verbally and/or physically abusive to you or your fiance, then yes she should be invited. If this is a serious relationship, this woman will be in your life for a long time. Should you decide not to invite her, be prepared for the best man to drop out and potentially end the friendship. Gently remind the best man that if his gf is unable to remain cordial, then she will be discreetly removed from the wedding.

It would be the polite thing to do is invite her...however if she have disrespected you or you feel she doesn't deserve to be there for your big day then no you don't have to invite her. Its your day you invite who you want. If you feel she will get out of hand save the drama and don't. Hopefully that all can be placed aside for this big day...i mean that will be considerate thing to consider.

Invite her, give her a shot. Maybe it will workout and the relationship will improve. however if she is acting up at the wedding I would ask her to leave!

Are you prepared for the best man to back out if his girlfriend isn’t invited? Is your FH prepared for that friendship to be over? That’s a possibility if you choose not to invite his girlfriend.

I would invite her. She might not even come if you relationship is as volatile as it sounds.

I would definitely invite her. You are asking him to be there to support your relationship so you should acknowledge his by inviting his girlfriend. If she really doesn't like you that much she will decide on her own not to attend. Also, I can't imagine that you'd have to even spend a lot of time with her. Since it is a wedding with lots of guests, hopefully she will be on her best behavior because most people don't want to make fools of themselves in front of people especially at a wedding.

They're a unit as a couple. Inviting her is the correct thing to do. If her weren't in a relationship, as the best man he should get a plus one regardless. Maybe you'll luck out and she won't come, maybe your best man will wise up and want to be with a woman who can fit in with his friends someday. But you should be the bigger person. I promise you won't even know she's there most of the time. My day flew by so fast, I didn't even get to talk to everyone!

It's your wedding! Noone you dislike should be there ❤️

I mean, the best man is one of your most honored guests. How is he going to feel if his girlfriend isn’t invited?


Why don’t you like her?

Your best man rightfully assumed she would be invited. They are a social unit and should be invited together. You’re asking him to spend his time and money celebrating your relationship, you should at least acknowledge his. If things are as volatile as you say, I doubt she’ll attend. Of course, no one can force you to invite her but are you prepared for the fallout if you don’t? If you’re okay with the best man pulling out of the wedding, then maybe it’s worth it to you.

View Quoted Comment Hi Gen,
The only reason he’s the best man is because my fiancé has known him from childhood, but we haven’t officially given him the title yet because he’s stuck between this guy and his other friend. Regardless, I’ve been trying for 3 years now to get along with his girlfriend, but last November she did something (I wont go into details) and after that we no longer are aloud to be in the same room together. Nothing physical happened, but she’s not a good person to say the least. I just don’t know how after her actions he still expects us to let her attend, so I don’t know what to do.

View Quoted Comment Hm in that case if he’s already being difficult and not understanding I would say he’s probably not the best pick to make best man! If you really can’t tolerate being around her then make it clear she isn’t invited, but don’t be surprised if it hurts your FH’s friendship with him and/or if he chooses not to attend without her.

Im sorry! I say absolutely not. It’s your day to have absolutely no drama! If you can’t be in the same room with each other, she shouldn’t be at your wedding the most special day of your life. Maybe I’m just to harsh but if I knew someone didn’t like me or my fiancé, they are going on the NO list! Good luck

If you cannot get past this and like adults, be civil and polite when you meet, whether or not you like each other, then you and she are writing off your friendship with the guy. She might choose not to attend if invited. But if you do not invite her, and they are an established couple, obviously, then you are pretty much slapping him in the face. Don't expect him to even consider being in the wedding, since he won't attend at all. Up to you.