Do you give a gift for a destination wedding?

It's really up to the couple and how close you are with the bride and groom. For a DW I would give cash, because a physical gift is too inconvenient. Also, as a Destination bride I didn't expect any gifts from my traveling guests.

We also skipped the shower. We had a coed bach that my closest friends bought me little gifts and that was it.

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For my DW I did not expect any gifts. Money would be best so you and the couple don't have to carry stuff back and forth.

A card with your heartfelt best wishes would be appropriate. Any couple who expects guests to pay thousands to attend their wedding, and still expects a gift, need to give themselves a reality check.

I'm having a DW and therefore do not expect gifts. I'd be over the moon with a personal card!

I am also having a DW and I don't expect gifts. I don't want a shower either but my FSIL (my MOH) insists that I have one. I will has really low priced items on my registry.

We had a DW. We did not expect anything from our guests. Card was enough, checks were most frequent from our guests.

We had a DW and did not expect gifts but everyone gave us something. 95% of our gifts were cash. I'm going to a DW in April and travel costs are $$$$$ for my husband and I but we will still give them a gift. I get the argument but I can't imagine not giving someone a wedding gift regardless of what my travel expenses were to be there.

We went to a dw in December of last year and ended up buying a Christmas ornament from the town and giving it to them when we were home.

I've gone to one destination wedding. They had a shower and I got a shower gift I didn't bring anything to the destination wedding, but I sent them later (from what I've read wedding guests have a year to give you a gift) next time I hung out with them I gave the this nice snow globe that you can put a picture in and I engraved it with their wedding date It was definitely less than I typically give for a wedding gift, but I went there and I knew they didn't expect anything. I just wanted to do a little something, so I thought a more sentimental thing would work. If you feel like you have to give a gift (which I understand, because I would never go to a wedding without giving a gift), I just think it's okay to give a smaller more sentimental gift than a super expensive gift.

I had a DW and we didn't expect gifts, but the amount of cards with cash in it that we had gotten, blew us away. Since it was mostly family & a few close friends. We actually didn't even have a cardbox because we weren't expecting anything.

Only gift what you are comfortable with and can afford. We did not expect any gifts from any guests at our DW. I was actually surprised by the amount that we got at the wedding. But, most of the bridal party did not gift is anything. And that is totally ok. The ones that did gave about $50 and one gave us a cookie jar with our last name and est.2017. It was so thoughtful. Don't feel like you are obligated to give anything. And if you do give a gift it doesn't have to be big. You have already spent a lot just to attend the wedding. I'm sure they know and understand that.

Ging? That is a brilliant idea!

I think a DW is an exception honestly. It costs thousands, it takes a lot of time; I think a great, heartfelt card is fine

Ditto to what other DW brides have posted. as a DW couple, we have said "no gifts". 65 of our closets friends and family are paying a lot of money to travel to Mexico - that is gift enough. I think most DW couples have a similar mindset - no gifts needed!

I having a DW and am not expecting to get a lot of gifts because of how expensive it will be for guests. We aren't having a shower, and are in our early 30s so already have all the basics we need. Our parents really insisted we have a registry for china and for upgrades, but I haven't even posted it on the website yet..I'll post it closer to the wedding. I'm assuming the registry will be mostly for family and their family friends to use if they wish.

Same as the others.. we are having a DW and do not want or expect gifts. We listed our favorite charities on our wedding website and asked that anyone who wanted to honor us further please do so with a donation. I don't think it is wise to carry a gift (cash or otherwise) to the actual destination because they just have to keep up with it to get home but if you want to get them something small you can get a "first Christmas" ornament made or a nice photo frame engraved with the wedding date, etc. to give them either right before or after the DW trip. Something thoughtful but not extravagant. I don't think they will expect large gifts or any gifts at all.