My mom was at my aunt's house today and found a ring bearer pillow from my cousin's wedding 4 years ago (those two are now divorcing). She sent me a picture and asked if we had a pillow yet. I texted back and said we weren't sure yet if we were using a pillow and she replied saying "free". I felt very pressured to say okay even though we might not even use it.
So my question for you brides is: do you feel obligated/pressured to take free items offered by your friends and family? Does it change your perspective if it doesn't fit your vision/you won't actually use it? Or do you just take it and maybe compromise on items you had already planned to get?
It's not that I haven't taken free things offered to me and been grateful but, it just seems odd how the word free can cause pressure on taking it.