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Erin
Expert July 2017

Do you feel like a 'Bride to Be'?? Is there a total bride experience??

Erin, on April 20, 2017 at 10:09 AM

Posted in Planning 37

I got engaged in October and getting married in July. I feel like I am not doing enough (besides planning my wedding), to get the total bride to be experience. I had a bachelorette weekend in West Virginia, and will have a bridal shower next weekend. But I don't always feel like a ‘bride to be’ for...

I got engaged in October and getting married in July. I feel like I am not doing enough (besides planning my wedding), to get the total bride to be experience. I had a bachelorette weekend in West Virginia, and will have a bridal shower next weekend. But I don't always feel like a ‘bride to be’ for some reason...are there any experiences I am missing out on? I am having such fun planning the wedding, but maybe reality isn’t quite hitting me and I just feel like I am planning a big fun party? Just curious.

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  • Sarah
    Super September 2017
    Sarah ·
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    I never thought I would find the one who I would spend the rest of my life with!!! Every day I feel like a bride to be!

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  • Gracelyn
    Super October 2025
    Gracelyn ·
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    Nope. Even trying on dresses was surreal for me. And I don't particularly like being at the center of attention so I think I'm okay with not feeling "bride-y."

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  • Jessica
    Devoted September 2018
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    The only times I have felt like a bride are when I found my wedding dress and tried on a wedding band. Other than that, I don't expect to feel anything other than 'party planner' until a week before the wedding.

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  • lyla
    Master July 2017
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    My mom feels like I should be crying every time I find the dress or choose a wedding band and that I should pop champagne after every wedding-related thing lol. According to people I talk to, if I'm not "that emotional" and "on cloud 9" for the entire 18 months of being a fiancé, I'm doing something very wrong. I think it's preposterous.

    I bet I'll feel like a bride on my wedding day, and that's enough for me!

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  • MrsB
    VIP June 2017
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    I feel most bride-y when FH looks at me and says, "In _____ days, you're going to be my wife!" He does it every couple of days and it's so freaking cute that I can hardly handle it.

    Other than that, I'm feeling pretty bride-y today, because we sent our invites on Monday and I just got out of class to multiple "Got our invite; they're so pretty!" texts. But that's basically it.

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  • Jesikah
    VIP October 2017
    Jesikah ·
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    I think I felt that way when I had all my dress try ons. Other than that, not really. I do listen to those podcasts someone mentioned above. I was REALLY into it. I think the day of my wedding I'll feel it

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  • M
    Devoted July 2017
    Masada ·
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    With working fulltime, going to school fulltime, and planning on a wedding on top of it, I don't feel bride to be-y. I feel tired and stressed! I do feel more and more excited to marry FH, I'm ready to start our next chapter as married people.

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  • AyEmVee
    VIP May 2017
    AyEmVee ·
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    Now that I'm ~2 weeks out...I'm feeling more and more like this is actually happening. Like, "Oh shit, we're actually getting married. This is really happening."

    I've had on and off moments of feeling bridal though. Usually when I'm actively doing something wedding related or when my mom and aunt took me to Vegas and made me wear a crown and sash to the Chippendales show.

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  • Katie
    Devoted May 2017
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    I dont really have that feeling either but I'm not getting a bridal shower or much of a bachelorette party

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  • K squared
    Super October 2017
    K squared ·
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    Well I'm a bride to be so I'm definitely having a bridal experience. Today I picked up my wedding dress. That's something I've never done before. I've also been to two bridal shows and have had vendor meetings. All bridal experiences and new to me.

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  • Christinanyc
    Master December 2016
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    I felt the most 'bride-to-be' right after my husband proposed and during the wedding planning process leading to the night before our wedding. The day of our wedding was total chaos- I didn't feel very bride-like.

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  • CrazyPaperDaisy
    Expert October 2017
    CrazyPaperDaisy ·
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    Nah. I feel like me. Honestly, it makes me feel really weird when people treat me "like a bride". I have one coworker (very sweet, older, widowed man) who means well but seriously every time a new person comes onto the team he introduces me and says "She's getting married in October!" A few days ago someone asked me about something (can't remember what) and he said "Oh no! She's more worried about planning her wedding am I right?" Like...No? I'm actually worried about the three papers I have coming up and the various issues at work. I'm planning my wedding but it's not the only thing on my mind you know? I'm still me.

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  • Jaime-Leigh
    Super April 2018
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    I've only felt it a few times, basically the wedding expo and Christmas when we announced it to everyone and everyone wanted to look at the ring. I sorta feel that way when I go through my planning binder, but mostly it's really just anxiety over spending so much money lol. I sure hope I feel bridal closer to the wedding!

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  • ToBeMrsWatson
    Super August 2017
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    Nope dont feel like a Bride to Be unless I have my gown on.... no matter how much planning/working i am doing i dont have that "feeling"....

    I just cant wait for August 12th to get here so i can be done with alllll of THIS!!!!

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  • PandaInLove
    Expert August 2017
    PandaInLove ·
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    I feel like one is only a bride during an actual wedding in which they are a bride. Not particularly sure what it means to feel like "bride-to-be" or the expected experience. If excited to marry my best friend and soulmate, then yes I feel that way every day. I'm often asked by others if I'm excited by the wedding or if there's anything they can do for the wedding, but I'm more excited about the marriage.

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  • Rebecca
    Super September 2017
    Rebecca ·
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    I feel the same way! We are about 5 months out. I think once June hits and we start finalizing things I'll feel more like a bride. Right now I'm just stressed! LOL

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  • Joy
    Super June 2017
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    I don't really have that feeling unless I am actually working on wedding plans.. I think once my bridal shower and bachelorette party comes along I will definitely feel more like a bride to be..

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