Do you feel guilty about costs?

This is part of why we had a short engagement (8months) so I couldn't change my mind too much. The goal was to not go into debt or use a credit card so I don't feel guilty at all.

you get ONE shot at this.

I have the same issue. I get a decent increase in May, but I also realized I can borrow for 2% from my pension plan (it will only be a few thousand dollars). It's totally worth it in my eyes.

Oh I feel super guilty about how much money we are spending in general.... We went from a dw to a full blown one... It's for the right reasons and if we're gonna do it at least do it right..., but I could think of much better ways to spend the money....

I like having money, more than having stuff. Planning was hard at first, but now I spend it like hell ya.

I wish we could just elope, honestly. I like the thought of all our "wedding savings" not being blown for 1 day, but everyone (including FH) has told me no.. Eloping is not an option lol oh well

I'm on commission and every paycheck is different and my income level changes every year. When we decided on a budget, we also gave ourselves a buffer just in case we need anything else that we didn't realize we needed or if we under estimated how much things costs. All the budget came from savings which the majority came from big commission checks I made last year. As we are wedding planning, we are already into our buffer and almost to the max. I constantly think "I will make more money" or "I can put that on my credit card and eventually pay it off." I'm not going to do it, damn it! I set a budget and I'm sticking to it! If I go over our budget, I will feel guilty. I refuse to feel guilty!

I do feel very very guilty but it's one day. You get one life and you won't ever get another chance to do it again like you do the first time.

All the time, the amount we are spending is ridiculous...especially when you favor in the honeymoon! We are paying for it ourselves and I feel more guilty than him. He wants the big show and I wanted a few friends hanging out for a week. I told him if we did a "real wedding" to be prepared for what it would cost. I thought it was gonna be around 25K for our wine country wedding and that just seems laughable now. I remind him weekly we could elope and have so much cash to put towards a vacation house...he still wants the show so we keep on spending lol.

Yes! If i could convince FH to go to the courthouse amd elope, we would have done that. The wedding is just one day, ever dollar you spend on that is one you won't have in the future... Which is why even though we are not paying, I don't want my parents to pay for more than the minimum. It has caused issues with FMIL.. Ie she wants china, our package is plastic. She wants three sets of flowers per table, I only want one. None of that stuff is important enough to pay for in my mind.

I really hope no one is borrowing from their retirement to pay for a wedding. That makes me hate the wedding industry and media brain washing.