Do you ask people you want to give speeches?

We asked.

Since you don't have a MOH, I would ask. Usually it's the MOH and best man that give speeches but I've given a speech as a bridesmaid when the MOH didn't want to so I would see if any of your bridesmaids want to do this for you.

Yes, ask them. Typically the BM and MOH give speeches as does the host(s) and/or parents. But it's not a given, so if you want someone to make a toast, you should ask them and soon. They will need a few weeks to prepare something.

Just ask them, but please don't ask six BM's to give speeches. Let the BM do one, maybe your parents, but as far as I'm concerned, less is more in this department.

Yes, you should ask. We asked because we don't want random people giving speeches. lol. BM, MOH, and our dads. Thats it! Short and sweet.

Thanks, all! Now I have to decide which BM to ask.

Should we give a welcome speech or just leave this out? Our parents contributed some $ but I'm 100% sure they would not want to be put on the spot.

Here the speeches we are planning on having:

- Fiance's BM

- Groomsmaid from fiance

- Groomsmaid from my side

- The couple individually

So 5 speeches in total. I prefer to have one less from Fiance's side but whatever and Fiance also wants separate speeches from the two of us so whatever.

We also suggested that all speeches be no longer than 5 min. The shorter the better.

I second what Celia said. We kept all speeches short and our guests literally thanked us because they get so bored having to sit through wedding speeches.

HAHAH! Thanks for that PSA Fall Bride. After the responses here I asked one of my girls to give a speech and she said yes She tends to get nervous but she said she felt honored so I'm happy about that. Our videographer said sometimes people have open mic for speeches and I thought that sounded like a terrible idea!

Is it ok to not do speeches or toasts or is it weird? I don't want anyone to feel pressured like they have to say nice things about us for 2 minutes in front of 60 or 100 or whatever people. Is no toast a side-eye thing? We are planning to be briefly thank everyone for coming before dinner and obviously thank them individually later. Can we just do that and skip actual speeches? No one likes writing a speech anyway do they?

I'd say the only thing I would like to see as a guest is the couple doing a thank you speech or something.

Everything else is optional and only preferred if it's good haha

I'm not picking one MOH, so I asked two of my bridesmaids to give a speech. We're all friends together, so they're going to give a short joint speech.

I have a spin off question on this - I have two MOH in my wedding. Should I have them both stand to do a speech together (as in one MOH talks for a minute or two and then the other MOH talks) or have them do them separate so each one gets there own little moment? Also do I let my MOH to not tell too many inside jokes and keep the speech pretty understandable for everyone listening? I won't be having our parents make any speeches because my dad gets super nervous so FH and I will thank everyone for coming and give our own little speech.

The only speech given was by us thanking everyone for coming. I feel asking people to make speeches too contrived.

You ask. I don't have a MOH either but I have 5 bridesmaids. I did ask them in the beginning if they feel comfortable speaking in front of others, a couple are shy, if they would like to do a short speech.

A friend of mine that just got married just asked her oldest friend to do it. Her moh would of had an anxiety attack.

I wanted to piggyback on this...FH BM is his father. We weren't planning on doing parent speeches but I just realized his dad would be doing one. Should I ask my dad to give a speech too?

You can definitely just ask the folks you want to give speeches to do so. Definitely don't make anyone feel obligated! A MOH and the groom's BM usually expect to give some sort of speech, but your bridemaids are probably not expecting it and I would bet they would appreciate you asking so that they have a heads up to prepare!