Do You And Your Partner Share The Same Apology Language?

Huh, I had never heard the '5 Apology Languages'. Dr. Chapman's 5 love languages was a lot more fluid. I feel like a strong apology should have a few different elements, and the 5 apologies theory minimizes it.

I received make restitution, but any apology should be grounded in first accepting responsibility and expressing regret. My scores were pretty even: 6 - restitution, 5 - accept responsibility, 5 express regret, 2- genuinely repent, 2 - request forgiveness.

I can't exactly say how my husband apologies. I'm pretty sure it's similar to how I apologize. Instead of a '5 separate' approach, I was taught something more akin to this: Apologizing

I just discovered the 5 Apology Languages today and thought I should share it. To me, they make sense because I could never put into words why I just couldn't accept some apologies that I've been given. Now I know what they were missing.

I have two apology languages, take responsibility and make restitution. My husband's apology language is taken responsibility.

Thank you for sharing that resource, it was a good read.

No problem! It was weird for me to see since I'm a trained mental health counselor and was always taught the 'multiple factor' apology approach. I can definitely say that some apologies don't feel like actual apologies to me and I can't accept them though...

Hmm, this is interesting! FH and I are pretty good at saying sorry when one has hurt the other!

We literally vocally say "I'm sorry"