Tisha
Savvy August 2020

Do weddings really bring out the worse in ppl?

Tisha, on September 13, 2019 at 8:48 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 21
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Since my announcement and planning I’ve found that some ppl aren’t genuinely happy for you. I’ve had to dismiss ppl from the wedding party because of the constant opinions about what THEY want or feel.

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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
    Yes and no. Some people feel the need to tell you their opinions and see that as the only correct way of doing things. Other people are able to be more generous with their feelings and will support you no matter what. I personally have had more support in my planning and almost no negative vibes. But it doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks because they aren’t you, and won’t be living your life. Congrats on your engagement!
  • Tisha
    Savvy August 2020
    Tisha ·
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    Thank you and congrats to you as well. The people that apart of the wedding party have been so supportive and helpful but I’m just finding that some ppl ( non factors) try to make themselves relevant in something where it’s not about them it’s about Us.
  • Cheryl&rock
    VIP June 2019
    Cheryl&rock ·
    We were very lucky that everyone was on the same page that "it is your wedding" do what you want.
    The only thing I was disappointed in was that most of my female attendants showed very little enthusiasm. But then again, no one is as excited as the bride!
    Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
  • Tisha
    Savvy August 2020
    Tisha ·
    Thank you appreciate the feed back
  • Shannon
    Devoted June 2020
    Shannon ·
    I think tv and social media plays a big part of it. No one really does get as excited as the couple. And thats totally normal
  • Monique
    Rockstar December 2019
    Monique Online ·
    I have a girl in my life who was “happy” for us. She started treating me so badly after I told her some details about the wedding. At the end of it all I dismissed her from my life because it’s not worth it to have the drama in my life. Too much stress.
  • Rebecca
    Super August 2019
    Rebecca ·

    They can. I cut off my mother 3 weeks before the wedding, because she not only declined to come, she bullied her entire family into not coming - and not communicating with me about it, either. Granted, cutting her off was a very long time coming, but, yeah...

    But we also didn't share a whole lot of details with anyone who didn't need to know, and we have a really great "framily" group who were super excited we were finally getting married.

    I almost never posted about the wedding on social media, which helped keep a lot of drama down.

  • Jennifer
    Super September 2020
    Jennifer ·
    Yes. I'm so tired of it. I have about a year to go and I'm really ready to throw in the towel and elope. I don't understand why people think they have any right to dictate and demand how our wedding should or shouldn't be. It doesn't help that I really don't want the whole thing to begin with, but it is stressing me out and sucking any enjoyment from things for me.
  • M
    Super September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
    Yes!

    I had to adopt an “input and opinions cost 💵” response.

    People are absolutely stone cold crazy!

    It would never have even entered my 🧠 to ask some of the things that I have been subjected to during this process.

    I really should’ve just gone to the 🏛and has a really nice Honeymoon.
  • Tisha
    Savvy August 2020
    Tisha ·
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    I’m learning that as well about posting on social media about anything regarding our wedding because some people aren't as excited or as happy as you are. My family is being super supportive my “mom” not so much, but it’d a learning process I must say. Thank you and congrats and many more blessed days to follow
  • Tisha
    Savvy August 2020
    Tisha ·
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    Jennifer I totally agree! Me and my fiancé already said if we hadn’t already invested money we would wrap it and elope. Ppl can be very rude and opinionated when it’s not about them it’s very stressful but I can honestly say I have some great friends and family members ready for it! Lol but try to focus on YOU and your Finance and why your getting married and remember it’s about you guys. Thanks for your reply
  • Tisha
    Savvy August 2020
    Tisha ·
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    Lol! Thanks for that!!!! I’m gonna use that moving forward!!!
  • Tisha
    Savvy August 2020
    Tisha ·
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    Truly sorry to hear that 🥺 but I’m sure you are a lot happier and stress free now that you have eliminated the dead wait.
  • M
    Super September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
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    You’re welcome!

    Best wishes for your future.
  • Andrea
    VIP April 2020
    Andrea ·

    Hey Tisha,

    I do agree to a certain extent that weddings can bring the worst out of people. Some folks get so bent about all aspects pertaining to your wedding, it truly makes you wonder if they are happy for you. Some are very demeaning and disrespectful, criticizing everything you do and shaming you for certain decisions. The only thing you can do with these people is literally stop talking about your wedding with them. Completely disregard the negativity and surround yourself with positive individuals. They may be annoyed that they aren't involved in the planning, upset that you're being vague with details, etc etc, but it's for your peace of mind and well-being. I've had to do that with some very overbearing people, and man, do I feel better!

  • Jennifer
    Super September 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I have cancellation insurance, so I could totally cancel and elope...lol. I'm doing this for him. I hope it is worth it and things work out well. There will be nothing more upsetting then having a wedding I did not enjoy but spent thousands on when I would have preferred eloping. We'll see what happens 😂.
  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
    Your best bet is to keep your details to yourself. People have all sorts of opinions. If people ask you questions you're uncomfortable answering, simply say "I want it to be a surprise" or "I'm not sure yet". After I got engaged, people only asked questions about the wedding. Every single day. I think a lot of people mean well. They just happen to have their own thoughts on what a good wedding is and they may not align with your own. Congratulations!
  • Tiffany
    February 2021
    Tiffany ·
    For my experience, yes. However, I’ve seen loved ones who had great experiences and everyone was helpful during their planning process.
    I didn’t expect people to care as much as me, but it would have been nice if my future in-laws have offered to help with planning and organizing. My sister showed zero concern and my mom was the only one who offered any help. As a result, it contributed to the decision of us eloping instead of having a tradition wedding and reception. I couldn’t wrap my head around paying $10,000 to $25,000 for a big celebration that I had to plan all on my own. Plus I am no way a laid back person. I would become stressed out thinking about having to tell my FH’s brothers that they couldn’t bring a plus one or their girlfriend who won’t even return a wave or “hello” when I greet them.
  • Tiffany
    Just Said Yes November 2019
    Tiffany ·

    Yes girl. Its brings out the devil in some people. You see it for what it is.

  • A
    Super September 2019
    Anna ·
    Yes, I was just telling my best friend about this lol. Mostly everyone was genuinely happy, BUT people have very strong opinions “you HAVE to do a cake cutting.. that’s so weird why wouldn’t you want pictures of that?” Uhm I want the cake in my stomach not in my hand in pictures (will of course get a pic of the cake itself). And people forget it’s your wedding and not theirs. Just personality type issues that cause issues.

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