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Do ushers get a plus one?

KristenMeowza, on April 2, 2014 at 9:43 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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I have some questions about ushers, but the main one is, are all ushers allowed a plus one since they're helping you with the wedding? We hung out with some friends over the weekend and one of my ushers was there and he asked this. FH started to tell him yes (he always jumps the gun!) and I intervened and told him it depends on if he's in a relationship at the time and we don't know the full guest count yet.

I just think it'd be weird if they are seating people and their date (who probably won't know anyone) is sitting there waiting for him.

Also, what other "duties" does being an usher detail? Do they help clean up ceremony space during cocktail hour or is someone else usually responsible for that?

How many ushers is too many? Right now we have 3 ushers, but I think I want to include my brother and FH's brother as greeters. We have roughly 100 guests.

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Latest activity by csquid, on April 2, 2014 at 9:59 AM

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Jules · on April 2, 2014 at 9:47 AM
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I don't think it's any different than the guests of groomsmen sitting alone during the ceremony. We don't have ushers (only groomsmen who doubled as our ushers), but I am of the belief that if they are in a relationship the significant other must be invited. If he is truly single then it's your call.
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Shaquaya · on April 2, 2014 at 9:49 AM
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I only have 2 ushers. Right now they're escorting our grandmas down the aisle, and making sure everyone gets a program as they walk in. I wasn't sure what else they should do either. As far as the plus one, some may say yes since they're "in the wedding" but for me it would depend just as u stated.
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Jazmin · on April 2, 2014 at 9:49 AM
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I'm using our groomsmen as ushers our guest list is 100 and everyone is not getting a plus one. I'm very specific when it comes to that. Don't really want to go over the count.
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Out the Window · on April 2, 2014 at 9:49 AM
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I think the role of an usher is just to usher people down the aisle for the ceremony and hand out programs. I wouldn't give anyone clean up duty. The ceremony space is being taken care of by the venue. You should talk to yours to see if that is the case.
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KristenMeowza · on April 2, 2014 at 9:54 AM
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Thanks OTW and Erin for clearing that up! I didn't want to put them to work if I didn't have to!

What if I still have my 3 ushers, but our brothers walk our moms to their seat? That's ok, right?
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csquid · on April 2, 2014 at 9:59 AM
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I'm only having 1 usher - my brother - because FH didn't want him as a GM and I wanted him to have a special role. I honestly don't know what his duties are aside from greeting and seating people.
ETA: Oh and he's not getting a date because he isn't in a relationship.
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