Morgan
Devoted June 2018

Do rsvp cards need to go to everyone?

Morgan, on February 22, 2018 at 10:10 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11
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We're doing a destination wedding (Cancun) in October and I sent out the save the dates in December with a link to the website which already had all of the information. Since then we've had several guests RSVP online and book their room. Do I still need to send them RSVP cards to people who have RSVP'd already? Some RSVPd yes and some said no.

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Latest activity by Morgan, on February 22, 2018 at 12:39 PM
  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
    OG Kathryn ·
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    Maybe just continue using the online RSVP. Just put a link in your invite.

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  • Erica
    Expert August 2018
    Erica ·
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    I would send them out still because not everyone might have a computer or tablet to rsvp. Plus you dont know if people would change their mind. Honestly up to you.
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  • Morgan
    Devoted June 2018
    Morgan ·
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    I really want to do that, but we invited 300 (FH has a huge family) and we're expecting about 120-150. I'm worried that if I don't send RSVP cards that are easy then the people who aren't coming won't RSVP and that could potentially be a lot of people. Do you think doing a fully online RSVP will work with older guests and guests who aren't attending? Especially the people we aren't close with?

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  • M
    Savvy May 2018
    MrMonkey ·
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    I hear you. I only sent invites but really far out and guests were very greatful for the super early notice. In your situation, I get the weirdness of sending invites to rsvp es guests, but I think it’s generally assumed that ppl will get formal invites. Also, invites are much more formal than save the dates. So if you have a formal vibe then it’s def nevessary.

    im personally strongly against printed save the dates- but people do need a lot of lead time these days!

    im curious what other folks will respond!
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  • The Nuptials
    VIP July 2018
    The Nuptials ·
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    If thats the case then just send them. Those who put 'no' may change their minds as well. Why leave it to chance, its best to make it crystal clear!

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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
    OG Kathryn ·
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    Holy crap you are expecting 150 to attend a DW in Mexico!! I've never heard of that good of a turnout. Keep us updated.

    The DW i went to was like 20 people.

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    Just Said Yes March 2018
    Tracy ·
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    A friend of mine didn't send out any RSVP cards, but the invitation included the link to RSVP online and a phone number to call if guests didn't want to go online. He said so far he's only been getting calls from the grandparents and a couple other random older relatives.

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·
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    I personally would give everyone RSVP cards. I just think it looks nicer.

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    Dedicated April 2019
    Mackenzie ·
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    To be honest if I was a guest and rsvp’ed online from the save the date and then got an rsvp card months later I’d be super confused. I wouldn’t know what to do. Do I fill it out again? Did you not get the first one? Do I fill it out online? Should I just not fill it out at all so you don’t get a double rsvp? I totally get having physical rsvp cards for older people. I would maybe just keep track of who already rsvp’ed and not send them a card with the invitation. Or at least in some way acknowledge you received the first one!
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  • April
    Expert September 2018
    April ·
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    I think for the people who have already RSVPed on the website I will include a note that says "Thank you for your online RSVP. We can't wait to celebrate with you" instead of the actual RSVP card.

    For all others, I will send an RSVP card with the option to mail or RSVP online.

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  • Morgan
    Devoted June 2018
    Morgan ·
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    Wow I love that! I don't know why that never crossed my mind!! Definitely going to do this.

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