Do i tip vendor assistants?

Are you giving monetary tips? They should split them with their assistants.

View Quoted Comment No, I didn't plan on giving monetary gifts to them. Just gifts

View Quoted Comment I would definitely recommend budgeting for tips. The blankets are a great idea, but that doesn’t replace cash. It would be rude not to and your vendors will probably assume that you were unhappy with their services, just like if you went to a restaurant and didn’t tip the server.

As someone who caters weddings a lot, we do in fact take as you weren't satisfied with our service. Also keep in mind that if you are having food catered that the person who delivers and sets it up for you has to split the tip with the main cook who made your food.

I don't mean this to sound rude, but unless we were close personal friends and I also happened to be one of your wedding vendors, I would find it odd that you made me a blanket rather than gave me a cash tip. To me, that would be like giving your server in a restaurant a gift -- a potted plant or a scarf -- rather than a tip. Personally, I think employees (which are what wedding vendors are) should receive cash tips as a positive response to their service.

Non-cash "tips"/gifts are inappropriate for a business relationship. You should give them money, as well as their assistants.

While the blankets are a nice touch, they do not replace the monetary tip. They will divide the monetary tip with their assistants.

View Quoted Comment Exactly this.

I want to add to my earlier response to explain that I feel the way I described, AND daughter absolutely LOVED her vendors (like, so much so that she was bummed after the wedding she wouldn't have a reason to meet with them anymore). So I completely understand coming to think of them as "friends," and you're certainly NOT going to hand your best friend/MOH an envelope full of cash; you are going to buy or make her a thoughtful gift. But no matter how good they are at what they do and relationship building, vendors should be treated/rewarded in a business appropriate manner and that includes a cash tip, a heartfelt thank-you note, and fabulous reviews left everywhere you possibly can. If by chance you truly became close personal friends with them and that relationship continues after the wedding, that's awesome, but it's still best to tie up all the loose ends on your business relationship in an appropriate way before you move on to a strictly social/personal relationship with them. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the advice!

View Quoted Comment Okay, thanks!

View Quoted Comment I feel exactly this way with some of my vendors. I'm a total gift giver, probably too much so. My mom says I've been very generous to my wedding party, ha. I just wanted to do something that added a really nice touch.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the expertise!