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Kristen
Savvy November 2019

Do i send them an invitation?

Kristen, on September 8, 2019 at 11:19 AM Posted in Planning 0 19
Hi Everyone, I’m getting ready to send out our invitations. There are people who have already let us know they will not be able to attend the wedding .... should I still send them an invitation? I don’t want them thinking I except anything but I also don’t want them to not feel included???

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Latest activity by MrsD, on September 9, 2019 at 2:08 PM
  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    Yes I would still send one. To be polite but also you never know if they see the details all laid out they may reconsider.
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I would send one. Sometimes plan change for people and you want them to know they are invited.
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  • Rebecca
    Devoted September 2021
    Rebecca ·
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    Definitely still send one. As others have said, plans may change. They may also not understand all of the details and actually be able to make it for at least part of it!
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  • Kasey
    Savvy November 2020
    Kasey ·
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    Yes I would. It doubles as a keepsake.
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  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
    Aleaj ·
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    If they’ve already said they won’t make, i wouldn’t send an invitation, especially if you only have a limited amount.
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  • Mrs. Bubba
    VIP September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
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    I did not send invitations to 3 people. They’d already told me that they were not attending because it will be their birthday.

    IMO: That’s not a good enough reason to not attend a Wedding.

    That’d be like not celebrating Christmas because my birthday is 2 days after (which it actually is).

    You can’t take time out of your day to celebrate both?

    I went to an out of state Wedding on Mom's Birthday.

    I went to a Wedding while I was UNEMPLOYED (long term), it was out of town, and started Snowing. All of this is to illiterate the point that I shouldn’t have gone. I chose to go but I really shouldn’t have spent that money and taken the risk of being Snowed in somewhere far from home. I went to support her.

    You do can always find a way to do what’s important to you.
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  • L. Thomson
    Expert October 2020
    L. Thomson ·
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    We have a friend of my fiance who is currently stationed in Japan. He's already told us he can't attend, so I asked him if he would be ok if I sent him an invitation anyways since I plan on including a photo. He said he would love it. Perhaps do the same with guest you know can't attend?
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  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
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    I would, in fact I did. I already knew my niece couldn't make it but we sent her an invitation anyway. I still wanted her to feel included.

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  • Jess
    Expert October 2019
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    I would send one! always a nice keepsake and nice to know you’re being thought of by the couple!
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  • Lisa
    Dedicated September 2019
    Lisa ·
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    I had a couple tell me they could not attend. After the invites went out ( I did not send them one) They reached out and said they could now attend. I sent them one immediately. With that being said, I would still send the invite. You never know!

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  • Megan
    Expert October 2019
    Megan ·
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    I asked the guests I know couldnt/wouldnt attend if they would still like one. Most said yes. Smiley smile I had extras anyway, so no harm.
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  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
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    If they've already told you they won't be attending, there is no point in sending an invite that you spend hard earned money on because it'll just end up in the garbage. If they told you they weren't going and then act like they don't feel included, that's their problem, not yours. If they wanted to be included, they would've told you they were going Smiley smile

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  • J
    Master October 2019
    Jolie ·
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    Depends on the reason and who it is. We had one of my FH's military friends and wife say they had a family member's wedding on the same day after we sent STDs. We thought it was pretty obvious and set in stone they weren't coming to ours due to this and told us so. We didn't send an invite to them. I am a firm believer on saving money, paper and stamps.

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    I would still send one. We had several people tell us ahead of time they wouldn't be able to attend but still wanted one as a keepsake.

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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
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    I'd send one, things may change and they may be able to come! They are probably still expecting one regardless!

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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    I had family who I knew couldn't travel for the wedding due to health issues but I put a note in their envelope saying that I know they couldnt make it but still wanted to include them and make sure they have a keepsake!
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  • Sharyl
    Dedicated October 2022
    Sharyl ·
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    Yes I would still send an invitation. Even though they say they can’t go, it’s the thought that counts. And sometimes, their plan changes too so you never know. I have some of my family members that can’t attend (because they’re in the Philippines) but they still would like an invitation so they can keep a copy of it for themselves.
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  • Lisa
    Expert April 2021
    Lisa ·
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    I would still send one so the guest wouldn't feel left out. Plus they may change their mind.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I would, to make them feel included & in case they change their minds!

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