Do i say sorry or should i get a sorry?

I agree with PP (plus, we can't really control how people feel.) It does sound like she's overreacting but it's highly likely that she'll get over it. Honestly, if I were you I'd apologize to her just to help smooth things over.

I think she deserved a phone call before the Facebook posting, but she was wrong for attacking you that way at a funeral. I don't think for a moment you were trying to hurt her or be rude, but finding things out on social media is fine for friends, but not for family and people like family, unless it's in a private message before it's posted. I think you two should just talk. You can tell her you didn't mean for her to be hurt, but also that she didn't need to hurt you back.

I think you should have called her. She's your god mother and you said she's been there for you at major milestones in your life so why wouldn't she get a call? I can understand why she felt hurt.

I agree with most. A godmother s someone who agrees to step up in the place of a parent not something to be taken lightly. I think it was a selfish to not call/text her or pm her before the public post if you guys are close. Her reaction was OVER THE TOP and not nice I agree and I'm not going to say hurt people hurt people because that is a cop-out but I will say put yourself into her shoes and understand her hurt. you should call/ maybe meet for lunch and talk about both your feelings.

I think there were better ways for her to handle this. Approaching you at a large event was not the right thing to do.

However, she was offended by your actions and even if you don't agree that what you did was wrong i think it still warrants an apology. Just a simple "I'm sorry you were offended by the way we publicly announced our engagement."

If it's really bothering you, I think you should tell her you're offended by the way she handled the situation. She sounds like an important person in your life, so it may be worth the awkward confrontation to get this resolved.

I agree with this 100%. While she is entitled to her feelings, she has no right to dictate how you live your life, and how you prioritize your relationships. She was totally out of line calling you out like that, especially publicly at a wedding. She should apologize to you for that. While I can understand her being hurt, she completely overreacted and was totally inappropriate. It’s all how you feel, not her. Good luck!

Well if you guys are that close i suppose reaching out personally (even with a text) might've made her happy. regardless she definitely shouldn't have chewed you out over it. She could've just expressed how she was upset and that was that. certainly didn't need to make you cry - at a happy event!!!!!! I would say you both need to give an apology. maybe try reaching out to her now that things have passed and calmed down a little. Tell her you're sorry for the situation and you didn't mean to hurt her feelings and hopefully she'll give you an apology in return.

For me personally, I am no where near close to my godmother and did not personally reach out to her and let her know by phone or text that I'm getting married. She found out when I made my announcements to everyone else by Save the Dates. Was she upset? Doubt it. She knows we're not that close. I only personally called those nearest and dearest to me because it only made sense to. Your godmother is flat out wrong making you so upset at a wedding. She needs to apologize for her behavior. If you're not close with her at all, not sure why she would have expected a personal call. I guess some family and friends have a different sense of their relationship with you then you have with them. It definitely happens. Even to me. Some may not agree with my stance, but that's how I see the situation. I don't think you need to apologize to her for anything. People will say ohh you were wrong. I honestly don't see where you were wrong. There are some folks in me and FH's family who are unaware that we are getting married or recently found out, and it's because we don't like them, aren't close to them and they'd be the last people we'd notify. I hope your godmother apologizes to YOU. If my godmother treated me like that, I wouldn't hesitate to distance myself from her (as if we aren't already distant, LMAO)

If she's someone you know wants to be there to share things with you, you absolutely should have called her. Those people are far too few anymore for a lot of people.

That said, she's also in the wrong for not having a private conversation with you about it, and especially for doing it as she did at someone else's wedding, or really anywhere public. I would send her a save the date and give both of you a month or so to calm down. If she does not reach out before then, you should call her and have a heart to heart, preferably in person.

Be the bigger person. Yes, she over reacted but your relationship with her is what really matters at the end of the day. Consider that it may have come from a place of being hurt because of how much she loves and cares for you. Do not excuse the behavior, by any means, but convey to her that leaving her out was not intentional and emphasize that you still want her as part of your life. Tell her how it made you feel and that if there are any future misunderstandings, you'd appreciate her picking up the phone. She can call you just as easily as you can call her.

If after this, she decides she cant forgive that and continues bringing it up, you will have every right to tell her that she is being toxic and put her on notice. You do not want a repeat of this on your wedding day.