Do i re-invite all the no responses?

Never send courtesy invites to anyone. Only invite those you cannot imagine spending the day without. Invites say you want to share the day with them if they are able to attend but you understand if they are unable. They are not a summons.

Reinvite everyone. Nobody owed you an explanation of their original decline.

Following standard good manners, you never give a reason why you are declining. So why punish those who followed good etiquette by not inviting them, while favoring those who did what they should not do, and gave excuses?

Honestly no one owes you an explanation why they aren’t able to attend, and that is even more true a COVID world. As long as they are responding by your requested date, that fulfills their social obligation. If you still want them there to celebrate with you, definitely invite them! Agree with others to skip any courtesy invitations; if you don’t really want someone there, forgo an invitation altogether and maybe follow up with an wedding announcement instead (totally optional)?

I would suggest just sending out your invitations to the people that give you an excuse. I agree that obviously no one owes you an explanation, but sometimes when people say no it’s because they really just don’t like weddings or they have Covid concerns etc. Plus, again not that they’re required to, but usually when people give you a reason why it means that they would’ve loved to attend otherwise.

I would probably re invite everyone. I have never provided a reason as to why I have declined a RSVP.

We are re-inviting everyone. Some people who couldn't make the 1st date may be able to make the new date and vice versa.

I agree with PP who said you should re-invite everyone on your original list. Also, yeah, a reason is never required when declining an invitation, so it would be pretty silly to penalize anyone for doing something completely acceptable. And finally, it's always a good idea to only invite the people you want to attend. So, try not to think in terms of "courtesy" invites and "real" invites.

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Why would you assume that everyone who just said no doesn't like weddings or had COVID concerns that would still be in play on the new date?

View Quoted Comment “But SOMETIMES when ppl say no...” just thinking about how I would respond if I didn’t want to go to a certain wedding regardless of the date or situation. Just trying to give her a different perspective on it, you know what I mean.

View Quoted Comment But think of the poor bewildered friend who simply could not make it, politely got in the RSVP on time exactly as called for, which is with no explanation, and cannot figure why she was dropped between weddings?☹️ I say, if we are going to make up "what were they thinking?" scenarios, we should make it so people who never bothered to RSVP in any way get slammed. Everyone hates them. Coming, not coming, just give an answer .

View Quoted Comment I mean idk about ‘slammed and everyone hates them’ lol That’s a bit deep, but yeah I get where you’re coming from. I personally wouldn’t, but different strokes ya know.

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Then they can say no again. But it's bizarre and bad hosting to assume that someone who says no to an invitation because they don't like weddings. An invitation is not a summons. People have conflicts and aren't able to attend all events that they're invited to, for a number of reasons.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for that. I appreciate hearing your insight on that. It really puts everything into perspective now.