Do i put my Fiancé's sister in my wedding?

Personally, I wouldn't include her in the wedding party. You should only include those who you genuinely want by your side, and those who actually support your relationship. Don't include people out of obligation, or because they asked you to be in their wedding, or because someone else wants you to include them, or to try to repair a relationship, etc. It'll end up being more drama than it's worth. Plus, if things didn't improve between you and her, now she's in your bridesmaids photos for life. Your fiance can include her on his side if he'd like, or she can attend as a guest. But I wouldn't recommend asking her to be a bridesmaid.

Based on what you've described, the short answer is No. She is not entitled to stand on your side, as these should be your closest and dearest relationships. If your FH wants to ask her to stand on his side (incredibly common now) so that can still be included in the wedding party, that sounds like a better solution.

I actually have a VERY similar relationship with my future sister-in-law! She is also one year older than me and was incredibly close with my FH growing up but now she is bitter she is no longer the most important woman in his life. I decided not to include her in my wedding party since the last thing you want is someone standing next to you on the day of your wedding who is not supportive of your relationship.



Maybe offer to do a brunch with your new in-laws the day following the wedding or some other type of friendly overture? If you want her to get ready with you and your girls before the ceremony that is also okay to offer. Maybe include the FMIL as well since she is trying to be a mediator and you seem to trust her to help with the relationship.

Don't do it, I included my SIL in my wedding and it ended up with a huge family fight. She's not entitled to be in your wedding party and if she screws up you will have to deal with that awkward situation forever.

Don't do it. If your FI is close and wants her involved she can stand on his side.

I agree with the prior posters on this!! She should not be asked to be a bridesmaid, in my opinion. Perhaps a groomswoman, if your FS wants to do that.

You mentioned she feels threatened by you and is not welcoming. That is the type of you shouldn’t even invite in the first place. Your bridesmaids are your most supportive, best friends in the world. Just because she is fiancé’s sister doesn’t give her an automatic pass to be a bridesmaid. She can be a guest or don’t invite her because she doesn’t support your relationship.

I would not do it. If she wants to be apart of the ceremony, she can ask your fiancé. You need bridesmaid's that have your back and are super supportive of you. This is you and your fiancé's special day, not hers.

If you ask her to be in your wedding party, ypu gi e her permission with a big smile on your face for the Next 300 acts of rudeness she will do starting before you even say I Do. Tell FI that you have decided that the way FSIL might pass as juvenile behavior, but nothing in her attitude or actions in all this time have been reason to have her in your BP. Choose all friends for real, or choose no one, but don't choose her.

I agree it would be awkward to ask her. Your fiancé can ask her to be a groomsman, I think that would make more sense.

*I meant groomsWOman, silly autocorrect

If she doesn’t like you or accept you than chances are she won’t accept the opportunity to be a bridesmaid. I have family drama too but I decided to take the high road. Ask her and if she says no then it makes her look like the petty one not you. If she says yes then maybe she can learn to accept the fact you aren’t going anyway and are with her brother.

View Quoted Comment This is what I came to say, too!

Definitely do not ask her. She doesn’t like you. You don’t like her. You are not marrying her. Plus, she is making no effort to be your friend. Forget it and don’t feel bad. Just because she is miserable that doesn’t mean you have to be miserable, too.

A better question is, why would you?
She’s not your friend and treats you badly.