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Devoted September 2021

Do i pay?

Kia, on September 15, 2020 at 8:00 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

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The girls are paying for their own dresses (lulus) and undergarments and they can wear whatever shoes they want. So they’re spending like $150, $200max. I was originally going to have us all do our own hair and makeup just because we’re not “glam” kind of people and I have never seen wedding makeup that looks normal. But now I’m thinking I want someone to just come and do our hair because, stress and I don’t want everyone to look like a complete mess as the day goes on (we’ll still be doing our own makeup, because....hard pass on professional makeup lol). But. Am I supposed to pay for them to get their hair done?

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Latest activity by Madelin, on September 16, 2020 at 1:37 PM

Master November 2020
Kristen · on September 15, 2020 at 8:02 PM
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If you make it a requirement then yes you should. If you leave it as an option then it can be on them to pay.
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Rockstar July 2019
Veronica Online · on September 15, 2020 at 8:03 PM
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I agree with the previous poster. If you are requiring them to have it professionally done then yes you should pay for it.
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Master September 2020
Jessica · on September 15, 2020 at 8:11 PM
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If you are requiring it, yes you should pay. To be honest, I couldn’t tell you how either of my MOHs did their hair, I had so many other things to focus on it just didn’t matter to me.
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Master October 2020
Margaret · on September 15, 2020 at 8:11 PM
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If you’re mandating they get their hair done the. Yes you should pay. If it’s optional for them, then thy can pay
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Devoted September 2020
Samantha · on September 15, 2020 at 8:34 PM
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I have my girls the option if they wanted to have it done and I paid half for the ones who said yes.
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VIP June 2019
Hanna · on September 15, 2020 at 9:04 PM
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If you're requiring it, then you pay. If it's optional, then you are not obligated to pay
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Master April 2021
Michelle · on September 15, 2020 at 9:11 PM
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I’m paying for hair & makeup for myself, my sister (MOH) & my daughter (bridesmaid). My other bridesmaid is going to do her own hair & makeup. My daughter definitely can’t afford (college student) & my sister will pay the tip. I’m not necessarily “requiring” it but I definitely want it. I want the day to be as stress free as possible & what better way than a lil pampering in the morning??
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on September 15, 2020 at 9:40 PM
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I had four girls - two did their own hair, one didn’t do her hair at all and one went to a salon. So Maybe you can ask if they’re interested ?
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Molly · on September 15, 2020 at 10:21 PM
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I asked each of my bridesmaids what they wanted. All but one said they wanted it so I booked that number. I have room in my budget so I'm covering it. The only one that didn't say yes has super short hair and didn't want me to spend money to book it when it will probably stay short because she's comfortable with that length and it looks so good on her!

I would ask what each one is comfortable doing! As long as you are upfront with the cost if you chose to cover it. Though like pp said if you require it, it's only fair to pay for it.
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Biaani · on September 16, 2020 at 11:47 AM
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Not necessarily. weddings I've been to getting our hair done wasn't "mandatoy" it was more like the only and obvious choice lol. we all paid for our hair and make up. it was around $130 for both.
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Katharine · on September 16, 2020 at 11:56 AM
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For the big re-do next year (we had a mini COVID wedding this year), I gave mine the option to have hair and/or makeup done at their cost (in whatever style they wanted), at the same place I'm having mine done, or doing it themselves. I trust all my BMs to look presentable at the very least. Most of them did actually want their hair done and were fine with paying for it since I was able to negotiate a group rate discount.
It would depend on your girls finances though. If they're all doing ok and you're not requiring a specific style, I would think they should pay and you can try to negotiate a discount rate and get a range that your ladies can afford before booking anything.
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Devoted November 2020
Madelin · on September 16, 2020 at 1:37 PM
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That is up to you. My maid of honor is paying for the mua and hairstylist to do hers. My other bridesmaid is paying for her own hair. They know the financial situation we are in, so they don't expect me to pay for the wedding itself and their stuff. The mua and hairstylist is optional, so you shouldn't feel obligated per say. I gave them the option and told them the prices. I have one bridesmaid that is doing her own hair and makeup because that's what she can afford.
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