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Brooke
Savvy May 2020

Do i pay for lodging?

Brooke, on June 9, 2019 at 12:13 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
I’m getting married next May and my bridesmaids suggested I rent an Airbnb for all the bridesmaids and groomsmen to stay. The girls will be getting ready at the venue the morning of so this would be fine. However, am I supposed to pay for everyone’s lodging in the wedding party? What about their dates lodging? If I am, I’ll try to get the money or find a affordable option. What is the etiquette for lodging for the wedding party?

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Latest activity by Michaela, on June 10, 2019 at 5:13 PM
  • karen
    Master October 2017
    karen ·
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    You are not obliged to do this. I would not get involved. If they damage anything, it will be on you. Just say, sorry, not in my budget. You guys should feel free to arrange ti.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    If the bridesmaids suggested it, those who want to participate can arrange it. You would only be responsible for the cost if you were requiring them to stay there.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I wouldn't pay for it if they suggested it
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  • SummerBrideInAutumn
    VIP October 2019
    SummerBrideInAutumn ·
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    Something like this is totally optional. You can do it if you want and if it’s in your budget. Otherwise, don’t worry about it. Also, I think it’s a bit rude of your bridesmaids to have made this suggestion and then expect you to pay for it.
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  • Kelsey
    Dedicated October 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    Definitely not on you to pay for lodging! I feel like when someone agrees to be in a bridal party, they also agree to the cost associated (i.e. getting to the wedding, where to stay, etc).

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  • Melissa
    Dedicated October 2019
    Melissa ·
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    I don't plan on paying for lodging, but am looking into getting us all in the same block
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    If you require they stay there, you should probably pay. If it's an optional thing, they can contribute especially if they suggested it. To me, it sounds a lot easier to just let everyone get their own hotel rooms. I know my fiance would WAY prefer our own hotel room & own bathroom rather than sharing an airbnb with people we don't know super well.

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  • Michaela
    Super May 2020
    Michaela ·
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    I've seen it go both ways. My FH was in a wedding last year and the groom paid for hotel rooms the night before as their thank you gifts. Except he bought two rooms for all the guys and completely forgot about their significant others!! We didn't find out that there was no where for me to sleep until 2 days before. I'm sure your wedding party would be happy to split the cost. I think BnB is a fun idea, but I could understand everyone wanting their own separate rooms at a hotel too.

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