Do I mention wedding at job interview?

@bea22 that doesn't sound unreasonable at all, still don't mention it at the interview but being it up when they make the offer. Good luck!

I know. I wish I had to be honest. It's been a while now and have a job I LOVE! So I let it go. The even better thing was the girl they ended up hiring, got pregnant about 6 months later. Oh the other worst part, he is a pediatrician.

Good luck!! I just started a new job. My field isn't as competitive as yours, but I ended up mentioning it in my interview. It was an informal interview as far as interviews go. Once I was officially offered the job, I was able to negotiate extra time off during the month of my wedding.

I would mention it during the interview. As a manager or owner of a company i would be put off if I hired someone only to find out they were planning a wedding. I would just mention that i would be available to start immediately but that i was getting married in 6 weeks and would give them the dates. I think of it as professional courtesy. In addition letting them know up front makes you appear more trustworthy in the interview.

Conventional practice (via askamanager.org) is to discuss it when you receive an offer. That's still before being hired, so it's not like you're showing up on Day 1 asking for time off - it's still time when the employer can decide not to proceed if they need someone there during that time, and you have the opportunity to not take the job if they won't let you have that time off.

Good luck!

I would definitely wait for an offer, and I would also go as far as not wearing your engagement ring. I have been on a lot of hiring boards and it has been noticed a time or two with concerns that someone will be in wedding planning mode and won't be available as much as desired. In the end those concerns were put to rest, but after 30 years in the working world I can tell you that if I were engaged and had an interview, my ring would be staying home.

Agree with pp's, definitely don't mention it - you never know what the HR person will think.

A girl in my office, when she was interviewing chose not to wear her engagement ring because she didn't want the interviewer to use that against her, and then after she got hired, she just took one or two days off and said it was a personal family event. When she came back, with her rings, our HR woman noticed them and made a rude comment about it, like oh I didn't see you wearing a ring during your interview - so they definitely notice. (side note, our HR woman is a bitch and completely incompetent, but that's another story)

good luck!

I agree with waiting until you receive a job offer. I got a new job last summer with my first interview in early July and job offer in mid-August with a start date in mid-Sept. Your timing may work out fine.

Agreed - Wait until you have the offer. I've been a Recruiter and this has never been a problem when someone tells me they have a planned vacation/wedding/something else and need to take time off; we just let them know it would be unpaid if they didn't have enough accrued time saved up by the event.

Your chances of being hired decrease because statistically, most companies will assume that you're just going to have children shortly after and will have to take time off work. I would also recommend not wearing your ring to the interview.

I wouldn't mention it at all -not necessary

I'm not in HR but have been involved in hiring people. Depending on the field and company, they may not even be ready for your start for at least a month, so wait for the offer and then discuss start dates with them. Some companies take weeks or even months to move on hiring decisions so it may not even be an issue.

Yeah, don't mention it.

I'd try to start after the wedding if you get an offer. Six weeks is not that far off, and the full interview process plus the few weeks that most people take between leaving one job and starting another could easily push your start time past the wedding.

I had this happen. Got offered a job in May and got married in Sept. I waited until I had the offer and then I let them know "I am happy to accept but I need X days and Y days off (2 days for Wedding in Sept and 7 days for Honeymoon in Nov.) Please let me know if this is acceptable. If so, I will immediately sign the offer and send it back." (adding that you will sign it helps because it says "I need 1 thing, then I will sign". They know if the concede on they you aren't going to come back with more demands).

Also I did not wear my e-ring to interviews just because I didn't want any unnecessary bias. I know it's illegal but you can't change someone's thoughts.

Also, make sure you can take that much PTO off. In 1.5 months you won't have enough accrued. My workplace let me go negative up to 40 hours (I went 20 hours negative). If they don't let you go negative, you may have to take those days unpaid.

Usually after you get offered a job they ask if you have any vacations planned. then bring it up

Thanks for starting this thread. I have a second interview in an hour and was wondering the same thing. I definitely won't mention it, but my ring is staying on. If I get this job and can't get the PTO, I should still get my vacation payout from my old job, so unpaid time off should be fine.

Thanks for the advice, everyone. I did wear my e-ring to the interview (although it is fairly understated, so they may not have noticed anyways) but did not mention the wedding. Hopefully that can be negotiated if need be when I receive an offer. I also should have clarified that I was not expecting to get PTO right away - most places have something like 90 days before you get PTO. In my situation, I would graciously accept unpaid time off - it will be more of a matter if they can survive without me for a week!

Never bring up anything in an interview that is not relevant to the job--marriage, kids, etc. It doesn't strengthen your application, and just gives them an excuse not to hire you.

Yes, discrimination is illegal. But it is pretty much impossible to prove in a hiring situation. If there are 10 applicants, and you don't get the job, how can you prove that it was because of your marital status? So you're best off mentioning your wedding only after you are offered the job. At that point, you can negotiate time off for the wedding as part of your decision whether to accept the job.

Wait until after they've made the offer and then say that you have a trip already planned and paid for and need time off.

Don't mention that it's your wedding; it may cause them to doubt your commitment to the job even though that is total bullsh** but no need to get them doubting you from the start.

I might even suggest wearing an inexpensive simple band with your engagement ring. I've heard that married people often earn more money (like being tall, pretty or wearing glasses) it's a subconscious thing that could tip the salary slightly in your favor and they won't think "nice ring... When is she getting married and will this affect her work schedule"