I am currently in a bridal party. Including me there’s 4 of us. 3 of us live in California and the co matron of honor lives in Arizona where the bride is and where the wedding and all the pre wedding events are. The shower will be at the co matron of honor’s house but all of us are helping planning it. We all each bought prizes for the games. I have the games and have everything for a photo wall, etc. and the other bridesmaids have their contributions.
The co matron of honor does so many things without telling us and without asking for input. When someone brings it up that’s when she says she already did it. Well that’s nice and all, thank you for doing it but man it would have been nice if you asked for our input or something, ya know?
Case in point - we had all said let’s decide on bridal shower favors when we get the final count. But before that, one of the bridesmaids did suggest we do sheet masks as a favor. Anyway today, that same bridesmaid volunteered herself to do the favors... well the co matron says “oh I already did it” and she shows us the photos of it. They look really nice but she didn’t take the sheet mask suggestion or ask us for input or even tell us she was gonna do it...
There’s been other things that she does where it doesn’t come into light until it is brought up. She doesn’t outright say what she’s done or is planning.
When we asked her how much was everything altogether so we can Venmo her our contribution, she says “it was pricey so just donate to me whatever you want” ... I don’t even know how much things cost or what she even got, etc! So we said no no calculate it and let us contribute it all evenly split.
I guess I’m just frustrated because I wish she was more open with us about what she’s doing. I appreciate all she’s doing, knowing she’s there and we aren’t, but we do want to help more. We got her a separate thank you gift for doing so much.
I guess I just wanted to vent more than anything and wonder if I should just let it be, at least things are getting done nicely.
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