So I know the typical answers of of selfish I am being and how I’m not allowed to expect anything of my bridesmaids will come up but hear me out. I’m just not sure if I can get over all of this and keep this girl as a friend let alone bridesmaid.
So my MOH has been planning my bachelorette party. They were going to go somewhere local for the weekend until this certain bridesmaid lost it on all of the girls and said they do not care enough about me if we are not going somewhere elaborate and they need to re-evaluate how they feel about me. So they changed plans and my moh asked me where I wanted to go for bachelorette party. She knows I like to be in charge and I am VERY picky about hotels so she let me pick the Airbnb. She confirmed the dates with every girl (including this specific bm) and she said yes that she will be attending. Moh booked the Airbnb and not 10 minutes later bm responded “I forgot my boyfriend and I want to go to California instead. We can’t pay for both so you guys just have fun.” She then texted ME (the bride) and said to have fun at my bachelorette weekend but she would rather go on vacation. My moh then got a little upset because she waited for the Airbnb to be booked, so when questioning her this bm lost it again and told her to mind her own business and all of her contact will be through me now.
I am hurt that she would choose to go somewhere else instead when she has known the time frame for this for a long time. The way that she has spoken to the other bm’s and moh is very unsettling to me. I’m just not sure where to go from here