I have been with my FH for almost 5 years. We have a daughter together and he has two other sons (both different women). My youngest bonus son's mom and I have had our ups and downs over the years. Over the last two years we have finally been able to have a relationship. We do things together for our children, do things together, she was at my daughter's birthday party and comes over for cook outs.
I am still on the fence with her because of how rocky our relationship has been. My FH was never married to her and does not see the reason to have her there (I can imagine it may be awkward for him too). Children are all in the wedding. We have come so far I just don't know if I want here there, if she would want to come..... I am just torn. Part of me says no , but the other part says we are a family regardless our past....