Do i invite relatives that i don't talk to?

Honestly I wouldnt invite them. It sounds like you have enough guests!
I have 1/3 of the number of guests and I didnt even invite most of my aunts and uncles because I just dont have a relationship towards them and they haven't cared to try to reach out to me ever. They dont get along with my parents and my mom and dad said to not let that get in the way if I did want to invite them but I have zero desire.

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Thanks Chandra, I don't want to make my mother upset but I agree with you 100% - they have had no part of my life for the last 15 years.

Hi, one question, is your mother helping you foot any part of the bill? Because if so, she does have some sort of say (although you deserve the final say). My mother has insisted that I invite every family member from under the sun and I did...unfortunately because my parents are helping to pay for food. A lot of them might not even come, but I do know certain family members of mine did not get an invite when my cousin got married and we couldn't hear the end of it. It just has a lot to do with etiquette. You are blending two families into one and I can see why some parents would like all the family members there...or at least invited.

Nope! don’t have time getting reacquainted.. Mom would just have to understand! Happy Planning 🍷

Nope.

I actually think it seems "gift grabby" if you invite someone you haven't talked to in 1-2 years, let alone 15+ years. It's like saying "You're not important enough for me to talk to but come to my wedding and bring me a gift." Just tell your mom "no." If your mom wants to spend time with her, she can.

We ran into this with my FHs family. He has a TON of aunts and uncles and cousins. None of whom I've met, nor has he spoken to or seen in more than the 5 yrs we have been together. They were initially on the list but that put us well over 200 people and we didn't want it that big. So we talked to his parents, explained we really didn't want to invite people we didn't see or talk to on a regular basis (it's a wedding, not a family reunion) and asked if they were okay with us not inviting them. Luckily his parents were fine with that. If you're paying for the wedding you get the final say in who you invite.

To me, a wedding should be celebrated with those who are closest to you and have been in your life. Just because they are family doesnt mean they have been a part of your life.

I don't feel that it would be rude... but I personally would invite her and this is just my opinion. Especially if she was someone that was close to my Grandmother, I would just want her to be there respecting my mother's wishes. For instance, I am not too close to my father's side of the family, but I am making an effort to invite a good majority of them to my wedding.

As for the 3 cousins and their plus ones, I would probably not extend the invite to them, if budget is an issue for adding 7 more people. If your Great-Aunt (I believe) comes to the wedding then great, but if she declines because you didn't invite all of the other ones then at least you tried and sent the invite. Although if having them there would cause drama or problems, I would then agree with skipping the invite for them.

Ultimately, you should do what is best for you and what you feel is right though. Good luck!

I wouldn't feel bad about it all. If these family members are not important to you or to you and your fiancé as a couple, then don't invite them.

Both my FH and I are not inviting our mother's sides of the family for a few reasons. And because of that we were able to cut about a dozen people from our potential guest list and saved some major $$$.

And do you really want the potential drama anyways?

Umm I think it would not be rude if you decided not to invite your mother's aunt. For me personally, even if she's close to your mom and you are blood-related, i mean, you're really obligated to invite them over to attend your wedding, and i still don't understand why she got upset the moment she knew she wasn't going to be invited. Like, she didn't have that quite an attachment with you and vice versa, just because a wedding is a family thing, it is devotedly meant to be celebrated with those you feel the closest to.

Hi Chloe! Welcome to WeddingWire and congrats on your engagement! You received some great insight here and I agree, your guest list is completely up to you and does not have to include anyone you feel you are not close with.

I didn't invite a few uncle's. But one is estranged so that wasn't hard and the other I never even saw when growing up. But my guest list was way smaller than yours and my mom passed away, so she wasn't here to fight me on the list. However, if she were here, I probably would have had to invite her brother. If I were you, I'd invite them to keep the peace and you already have 300 people. What's 4 more? But if it's worth fighting over it, I guess keep saying no, but know there will be disappointment on your mom's end.