Do i invite my gay friends to the bridal shower and bachelorette party?

You don’t have to be feminine to go to a bridal shower or bachelorette party. If you want someone at your party then just invite them. It really doesn’t have anything to do with gender or sexuality, it’s about whether you want them their or not.

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I dont understand what being gay has to do with anything.
Do you want them there? If so, then invite them.
Do you not want them there? If so, then dont invite them.

Your wedding party goes to your event and the groom's wedding party goes to his event. Gender and sexuality don't have anything to do with it.

View Quoted Comment I don’t want them to feel like I’m inviting them to my events BECAUSE they are gay

View Quoted Comment I afraid they might get insulted if I invite them thinking I only did so because of their sexuality when that isn’t the case. It’s just other than them it isthmus are female only events. There won’t be other men invited

I wouldn't invite him to the shower if he identifies as male. Unless it's a couples shower, only females should be invited, not just people that happen to be attracted to men. As for the bachelorette, brides sometimes invite their CLOSE male friends or family members. For example, I invited a close male cousin to mine, but he couldn't make it. So if you are close with him, you can invite him to your bachelorette, but if you guys aren't close, don't just invite him because he's gay.

For the first person it doesn’t sound like you are even close to them. Typically bridal showers are for those you are close to and not people you want to catch up with.

If you you feel like it would do more harm than good to invite, then don’t invite. Just the wedding ceremony and reception is fine for anyone you are on the fence about, gay or not.

View Quoted Comment I understand where you’re coming from. So I’m a lesbian. If a male invited me to his bachelor party, that consisted of all men, I’d assume he invited me because I’m his friend and he really wanted me to attend. I wouldn’t think it had anything to do with my sexuality.
I’m not having a bridal shower but if I was I’d invite everyone I was close to. I’m sure your friend won’t be offended to show up to an event that is all females, instead I’m sure he’d feel happy that you wanted to include him in your party.

I wouldn't invite them if they're going to be the ONLY guys at your bridal shower. They're still guys and probably wouldn't be interested in such a girly event. The only exception would be if they're in your bridal party.

One of my best friends is gay and he went to my bridal shower and he was the only guy. I don't see a problem with it if he is your close friend he isn't gonna care if he is the only guy. And he has never met my FH.

I personally wouldn't just go out and send them an invite if they are going to be the only guys at the bridal shower without talking to them. Though there is nothing wrong with having gentlemen at your bridal shower. Two of my coworkers who are gay came to my bridal shower, but they showed interest in coming. I had a room minimum I had to meet and they "volunteered" themselves to come if needed so I just invited them and they were so excited. I did technically invite all three of my male coworkers but the third (straight and married) said he would rather eat his own leg off first.

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Totally this