Do i include my future sister-in-law as a bridesmaid?

You're not obligated to include anyone in your bridal party. As long as she's a guest in your wedding, I don't see why she would have to be included in anything else you don't need/want her involved in.

Don't feel obligated at all.. I asked my FH SIL, but I don't think there is any right answer to this

I wouldn't if there is no relationship. I involved my fiances 4 sisters (2 full sisters, 1 stepsister, 1 stepsister in law) but I have a relationship with all of them and it continues to grow. However, if you anticipate the relationship is going to improve & get better, I'd ask her as an olive branch.

I wouldn't include someone in my bridal party unless I was close to them, or if FH was super close to her and wanted her to be involved.

You are definitely not obligated to include her, only to invite her! You have quite some time before your big day, so maybe not rule her out, but evaluate the relationship over the next year or so and then decide. By including her on the details, you'll be able to better gauge her interest and how the relationship is building!

No obligation at all. I do have my 2 FSIL's in my party because we are really close and they are super amazing. My brother, however, is not in FH"s party. I don't have much of a relationship with him and neither does FH. He is decent enough at family events but I'd only be willing to go as far as to say hes cordial when required.

Your girls are going to be the ones by your side on your big day, That means it's whoever you want there, because you love them and they love you, not because of some perceived obligation.

You are not obligated! My FSIL is not a bridesmaid for the same reasons- we don't have a relationship and it's because she's never been interested. No sense in forcing things... if you guys become close, it will happen over time, and not because you asked her to be in the wedding.

I agree with PP. You don't need to include her. I don't have a strong relationship/ connection with my FSIL. I try to include her in things but it just doesn't work. My FH is very understanding about this as well and agrees with this decision to not have my FSIL in the wedding party. I will say this too, I am an only child too and I get how/ why you want that connection with your FSIL, because I am in the same boat; but for me, her and I are just on 2 completely different wave lengths.

Don't even sweat it. I have a great relationship with my own sister in law and I didn't even include her as my Bridesmaid

I was going to write exactly this. I love my SIL she is great but she's not my bff or anything so she was not included in my bridal party. I would not feel obligated whatsoever. Honestly I would be worried that asking her could lead to unnecessary drama (it seems like weddings bring out the worst in a lot of people) and that is exactly what you don't need now that you guys are trying to build a relationship.

Totally. I want her to just enjoy the wedding as a guest and not have to feel obligated to do any of the bridal party stuff. I love my SIL but never picture her in my party and that's ok.

Defiantly no obligation, but perhaps you could ask her to do a reading or be a part of the ceremony in a special way.

Same. My FSIL and I are not close. I have tried to be sooo many times (because that is just the type of person I am) but, it never works. She has a good side and a very bad one. As far as just being downright rude and ugly. So with that being said, she is not a bridesmaid.

That's more up to you. Your are not obligated to include her.