Do I have to tell vendors I choose someone else?

No. I wouldn't.

If she keeps reaching out (some of them pester you), I would mention that you decided not to go with her. Its polite but it will keep them out of your hair. Eventually, if you don't tell them this, they will get the hint. its up to you.

I think it's polite. Especially since you told her that you would. All it requires is a quick email saying that while you like her work, you've decided to go in another direction. That way if someone else approaches her about the date she knows not to check in with you.

Since she asked about the timeline for hearing back from you, I think you should let her know that you aren't hiring her.

When you apply for a job, do you want to be notified YES or NO? Or do you like to be left hanging, wondering if you said something wrong, debating whether to call or e-mail to follow-up?

Vendors are used to hearing NO. We don't pout or try to convince you to change your mind. I don't even ask WHY?

I'd rather hear NO than be left wondering -- not knowing if I should be following up with other couples for that date.

Since you gave her an expectation of when she should hear back from you, it would be polite to send her an email to let her know. I'm sure she'd rather be told "no" than to be left hanging. I think she'd feel more comfortable opening the day back up for future potential clients as well.

I let all of the vendors we met with that we didn't choose know. Even just a quick, "thank you so much for your time, we enjoyed meeting with you, however we have decided to go in a different direction" email is fine.

As long as it took you to write this post, you could've just responded to her. Just an observation.

Since you agreed on a follow-up date I definitely think you should reach out and let her know. You don't have to say "we haven't picked someone else, we just don't like you." Something as simple as "Thanks for taking the time to sit down with us last week. I wanted to let you know that we are going another direction and you can release any hold you might have had on our date. Best of luck to you." Boom. Done.

You don't have to, but it's a nice courtesy. Think about if you're contacting a vendor and they're booked on your date - wouldn't you prefer that they respond and let you know rather than leave you hanging?

Definitely let her know. It's the polite thing to do and takes no effort at all. Leaving her hanging would be very inconsiderate.

It's common courtesy if they spent time with you and took an interest in you. Just tell them thank you, but you've gone with a provider with a different style, nuff said.

No you don't have to. I only let them know if they took the time to reach out to me.

You should definitely let her know, just in case she's saving the date for you and waiting for your decision. She could potentially have another bride asking...

You don't have to but to keep them from messaging you and to be conciderate of their time they may try to spend reaching you, just quickly say you found someone else. It's just the polite thing to do.

I think it's rude not to. Honestly- just treat them like a human. How would you like it if a venue kept you on the hook about whether or not they could accommodate your date? If someone tells you no, then they move on.

You told her you would. Keep your word.

Please do. Vendors are used to hearing no. No need to be rude about it

Last evening, I got the nicest 'thanks, but no thanks' e-mail. I gave them my best wishes.

I told our vendors a variation of 'thank you for your time, but we've decided to go in another direction' but I felt it was polite to let them know so they weren't holding our date, etc.