Do I have to tell my friend that she won't be a bridesmaid?

I don't think you need to tell someone that they won't be asked to be in your wedding. That just seems unnecessarily mean.

I wouldn't tell her directly unless she asks. If y'all aren't as close as you used to be like you say, she might not be too surprised.

I agree with Lindsey. I think it would be really rude to tell her, "Hey I am NOT going to ask you to be in my bridal party".

If she asks, which is rude, then you can have a conversation.

I agree with LindseyO, there's no need to actually tell her she's not going to be in it. I have a friend of 15+ years that won't be a BM and I never mentioned it to her. I simply let her know I was engaged and hoped that she could make it to my wedding.

I agree with Lindsey seems mean to go out of your way to tell her she won't be a bridesmaid. Ask who you are going to ask and leave it at that.

Don't bring it up if she doesn't.

Chances are if you aren't close, she isn't expecting to be asked.

Thanks! It does sound mean now that I hear you say it. That really puts me at ease. I was just worried her feelings would be hurt if i didn't address it. Problem solved!

I totally understand your anxiety about it, but as the previous posters have said - it would be rude to go out of your way to inform her she's not in the wedding party! If it does come up just stick with "i'm keeping my bridal party super small" and let her know that you can't wait to celebrate with her and hope she'll be able to attend any pre-wedding events like the shower or bachelorette!

UO, but I have 3 friends that think they are going to be in my bridal party (they have all told me this while they were intoxicated lol). I deflected the situation at the time, but I think somehow I'm going to work it into a conversation letting them know I'm keep it small. We see each other all the time and it's going to be really awkward to continue on with them under the assumption they're in my BP.

No way. Unless she starts asking what color dress she should buy, etc. just leave it alone.

I really don't think you need to go out of your way to tell her. If she asks, explain where you're coming from or that you're having only 2 bridesmaids.

I wouldn't go out of my way to tell her, but I would be prepared to have the conversation if she brings it up. I had a similar situation and I was totally unprepared when my friend who wasn't a bridesmaid asked about it, and it was a little awkward.

I had a similar situation. I never brought it up. After she saw that I had picked my bridal party, she asked if I was going to ask her to be a BM. I said, "no." And she stopped being friends with me because she said I was "selfish." Lol.