Do i have to invite my future sister in law to my bachelorette party?

Yes, you do. Not inviting her, a member of the bridal party will cause so much more drama. Her feelings will be hurt and she will most-likely throw a fit.

I wouldn't have asked her to be in my wedding if she causes that many issues, but the ship has sailed.

You didn’t have to ask her to be a bridesmaid but it’s too late to do anything about that. Yes you need to extend an invite to the bachelorette party.

If she is a part of the bridal party, I think it's wrong to exclude her from something like that. If you really wanted to stretch it, you could try to say that you prefer not to have anyone from FH's family there as your friends can be a wild group, but if she is as difficult as you say, I don't see that being taken too well.

It would look inconsiderate if you exclude her. Maybe you should warn her that you and the others are interested in partying and you know it’s not her cup of tea ☕️

I would assume she will be hurt and throw a fit if she isn't invited. So I think regardless there will be a problem. When is your bachelorette? Can your MOH plan it, and just invite her a month or so out, and not include her in planning?

You shouldn't have asked her to be in the bridal party if you didn't want to invite her to bridal events Because of being older and not being a partier she might not want to come. So there's always that.

If she is in your bridal party you really should invite her the the Bachelorette. Maybe let her know that she is under no obligation to attend or stay for the entire thing since you know it's not really her scene.

You have to invite her based on her being a bridesmaid. However, like others have said, she may not want to come. Maybe let her know you plan to go out and drink/party.

It was important to my FH and his family to have her included in our wedding, so I invited her out of respect for him. Having her in the wedding was non negotiable. I plan on inviting her to the bridal shower and any other bridal events we have, but I would really like this just to be a fun girls weekend with women I am close to.

I don't think there is any way around not hurting her feelings or causing drama if you decide not to invite her. Unfortunately, choosing her to be a bridesmaid means she should be invited to all pre-wedding events. Maybe you'll get lucky though, and she won't go.

View Quoted Comment If it was important to him he should’ve had her on his side as a groomsmaid. But again that ship has sailed. I don’t think there’s any way to not invite her. You’ll just have to hope she declines.

Yes, you need to invite your entire bridal party to your bachelorette. If that’s not something you want to deal with, you shouldn’t have asked her to be a bridesmaid in the first place. If you can’t tolerate her for a party, I’m not sure how you think the wedding day is going to go.

She’s a bridesmaid and you want to exclude her from the bachelorette party- of course her feelings are going to be hurt. Even people who aren’t dramatic would be hurt by that. There’s really no way around inviting her since she’s part of your bridal party.

I think your best bet is to warn all of your other attendees beforehand. You can't leave her out at this point because you've already included her in the bridal party.

Let your friends know about your FH's 24 hour rule.

Let your FSIL know that you are the tamest of your friends, and it will be hellishly loud, crazy, insane, and downright WILD. Try to scare her ahead of time, maybe include some stories about some other attendees. If this doesn't work, you've warned your friends what she is capable of using her own brother's words. You'll have your bases covered if there is a meltdown, it will not reflect on you because you predicted it ahead of time for everyone else. It will be in her best interest not to make a fool of herself.

Yes. You have to invite all members of your bridal party to your bachelorette. Excluding one person will be seen a deliberate and based on her personality, I bet she will retaliate. It's probably safer to invite her than to not invite her. Do warn everyone else before hand though. If she causes drama, don't pay any attention to her. She can sulk in the room while you guys party it up!

BUTTTTTT if you're not the one planning, say your MOH is planning and she has a bold personality, ask your MOH to plan you a "surprise" bachelorette and leave her out. Oops, not your fault. That's what my bestie would do for me. One time a girl was causing drama with me and she straight up threw a drink in her face!

I’m sad to see so many replies telling you she should have been included. Our families guilted us into including both our sisters in the bridal party. I went on a cruise for my “fling before the ring” without them. And will have a party night in town for all to come to for my bachelorette party! It’s your wedding, it’s modern times, do what makes you happy and causes less anxiety!

Is there a way for you to have a “girls night” without her finding out? Just don’t call your bachelorette a bachelorette around anyone that hasn’t attended and let your friends know to keep quiet about it. I don’t think you need to invite her if she doesn’t know about it.

I think I would have two lol a lame one just for her and another one where the turn up can happen without the drama lol.

I'm going to say no you don't have to. My brother wasn't invited to my FH bachelor party simply because my FH went drinking with a bunch of his fraternity brothers and my brother doesn't drink. My FH did tell him, however, and said he wanted to do a dinner with my brother and dad separately so they could bond/get to know each other better.

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That probably is true in the general etiquette world and in some families that it would work that way. However, I understand OP because in my family it would be seen as a slap in the face if my FH didn't have my brother as a groomsmen or if I hadn't been a bridesmaid in my brothers wedding. It would have been looked upon like the person we were marrying didn't like or want to actually be apart of the family and would have caused major drama with everyone. My brother and my FH get along great so this isn't an issue but I will say we discussed before the wedding and my brother being a groomsmen was non negotiable for me.